nowwhatnow Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 i know this title sounds weird, but it has been a year and a half since my bf of 2 years broke up with me. i think this may seem like a long time - but we had a really passionate, intense relationship and for the last year we were basically living together. it took me a really long time to get to this point, the point where i can sort of entertain thoughts of being with someone else, but last night i exchanged numbers with a guy and he asked me out. for some reason, even though i havent even seen my ex in over a year - although our lives are still very intertwined - it feels as though i am cheating on him. he is the the only guy i have ever been with. he was the first and only guy i kissed and the first guy i have ever truly loved! how do i get over this feeling?
bestrong Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I too feel the same as you. My ex and I had broken up for over 2 years, so long that I have stopped counting on the dates and months. She isn't the only person I dated but is definitely the only person I have loved unconditionally to the point it became unhealthy for me. I still think about her everyday but it doesn't hurt and if it does, i am able to pull myself out of the sorrow. I haven't dated at all since she and I broke up. I haven't met anyone that I feel the same when I was with her and I can't get myself to be interested in other girls (being friends are ok). I feel that if I try to flirt or get into a relationship with someone, I am betraying my love towards my ex. However, she was the one who gave up on our relationship. If I need to find a reason for you and I are going through, it would be our hearts aren't fully recovered from the pain of the end of the relationship cause the image of ex is still lingering. I am taking the time to focus on myself and if the heart needs to take years to heal, it's going to take all the time needed. It would be interesting to know others' insight.
Philosoraptor Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 If you still feel like this then internally you are telling yourself that you are still not ready. Continue to work on yourself until things feel right.
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