nick d Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Sorry but this is more of a rant than anything. But I'm just at the point where I just don't care about anything anymore! I go to the gym, I hang out with friends, I do everything to keep my mind off of her. And I do whatever I can to focus on improving ME. But honestly, at the end of the day I realize it's all just an act and I'm actually miserable. I've just lost my care for wanting to do anything at all anymore. I'd rather just sleep all day and night. It's been 6 weeks since my break up. And I think I'm actually getting worse, not better. Anyone else feel this way?
mymission Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Yeah I do. These past few weeks I've been upset but I've had this hope that he'd miss me and we'd get back together. But I hard a cold hard slap in the face today and I realised its really not gonna happen. I'm never ever gonna see him again. I can't believe it!
Author nick d Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 I too had hope she'd come back.. But she already told me she lost her spark and didn't care about me anymore. The sad thing is, is even after hearing that I still think about breaking NC and contacting her. Even when it won't do a thing for me.
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Sorry but this is more of a rant than anything. But I'm just at the point where I just don't care about anything anymore! I go to the gym, I hang out with friends, I do everything to keep my mind off of her. And I do whatever I can to focus on improving ME. But honestly, at the end of the day I realize it's all just an act and I'm actually miserable. I've just lost my care for wanting to do anything at all anymore. I'd rather just sleep all day and night. It's been 6 weeks since my break up. And I think I'm actually getting worse, not better. Anyone else feel this way? Been there done that! Hey.. it's only been 6 weeks..the sad news is it's gonna take longer than that. Hang in there...as the weeks turn into months things DO get better...they really do!
mymission Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Yeah but we've got to wait months The days just go so slowly
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Yeah but we've got to wait months The days just go so slowly I know and it SUCKS! I too struggeled and was doing so good until she contacted me. It's a growing and learning experience...life doesn't end after your ex...it begins!
Author nick d Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 God if only my ex wasn't so gorgeous. If she were ugly maybe I wouldn't be thinking of her so much!
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 God if only my ex wasn't so gorgeous. If she were ugly maybe I wouldn't be thinking of her so much! She's NOT the only gorgeous girl out there!!!
Author nick d Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 She's NOT the only gorgeous girl out there!!! I know I know. It's just messed up how our minds think at these times. Ya know?
g450 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 The key here is TIME. It takes time. I have to agree to a certain extent with Mike about other women. Once you get to the stage where you realize how many good women are out there and that you are single now, you will change for the better. But I warn people not to jump into the dating thing right off the bad. It can be destructive if you do it for the wrong reasons and way too early. Again..give it time first.
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 The key here is TIME. It takes time. I have to agree to a certain extent with Mike about other women. Once you get to the stage where you realize how many good women are out there and that you are single now, you will change for the better. But I warn people not to jump into the dating thing right off the bad. It can be destructive if you do it for the wrong reasons and way too early. Again..give it time first. Ohhhhh yea do I agree with that. My ex. got involved with me just weeks after a breakup.....she wasn't over him and......went back to him.
mississippimom Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 The key here is TIME. It takes time. I have to agree to a certain extent with Mike about other women. Once you get to the stage where you realize how many good women are out there and that you are single now, you will change for the better. But I warn people not to jump into the dating thing right off the bad. It can be destructive if you do it for the wrong reasons and way too early. Again..give it time first. Sure wish someone would tell my exbf that, I told him last summer that I wasn't happy, then we did the FWB kinda thing, see each other, still hung out here and there. He claims he waited on me for 6 months before he finally realized things weren't going to change. He met a new girl a month ago, and just moved in with her almost 3 weeks ago! Ain't that something, and the girl is too dumb to realize that she is just a rebound!
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Sure wish someone would tell my exbf that, I told him last summer that I wasn't happy, then we did the FWB kinda thing, see each other, still hung out here and there. He claims he waited on me for 6 months before he finally realized things weren't going to change. He met a new girl a month ago, and just moved in with her almost 3 weeks ago! Ain't that something, and the girl is too dumb to realize that she is just a rebound! She will learn the hard way..like I did!
mississippimom Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 She will learn the hard way..like I did! I sure HOPE so and I hope she ends up using his emotions like he used mine. I was a damn good woman to him, he took advantage of my kindness and the love I shown him when we was together. He needed to start growing up and when he chose not to, I said enough, I'm outta here. It's kinda weird but if I am not mistaken when he and I met almost 2 yrs ago, he wasn't out of a relationship very long, but he claims I'm the only woman he fell in love with, blah blah blah.....if that was the case, why did he move in so quickly after meeting this girl a MONTH ago?
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I sure HOPE so and I hope she ends up using his emotions like he used mine. I was a damn good woman to him, he took advantage of my kindness and the love I shown him when we was together. He needed to start growing up and when he chose not to, I said enough, I'm outta here. It's kinda weird but if I am not mistaken when he and I met almost 2 yrs ago, he wasn't out of a relationship very long, but he claims I'm the only woman he fell in love with, blah blah blah.....if that was the case, why did he move in so quickly after meeting this girl a MONTH ago? I hear ya... I was beyond good to my now ex.g/f of a year and as soon as her ex. became available again I was history! Funny thing is I think they brokeup AGAIN!!
mississippimom Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I hear ya... I was beyond good to my now ex.g/f of a year and as soon as her ex. became available again I was history! Funny thing is I think they brokeup AGAIN!! Oh lawd....now the issue I am having, is he'll call, I don't pick up so I can avoid becoming "weak", heard the vm, return the call so I don't seem to act immature, trying to do the "friend" thing, but it seems like I am not ready still. I have panic attacks when I am driving in the local towns here bc he is well known here.
mike588 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Oh lawd....now the issue I am having, is he'll call, I don't pick up so I can avoid becoming "weak", heard the vm, return the call so I don't seem to act immature, trying to do the "friend" thing, but it seems like I am not ready still. I have panic attacks when I am driving in the local towns here bc he is well known here. Sounds like you did alot for your ex.like me...It's best just to ignore the calls...don't return any and just put it behind you (us) and just move on. Ever since my ex. contacted me I get alittle freaked everytime I get email or there is a message on my answering machine/voice mail. I'm not ready either!
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