robthefool Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I went out with my ex for 5 months, she broke up with me in February 2011. We were both each other's first proper love, and we both lost our virginity to each other, so I understand it might be harder for her to let go of me than just some other boyfriend.. Now, she did lie a bit towards the end of the relationship, was a bit bitchy about me behind my back, and really annoyed me and made me upset. So for about the last year I have been in no contact, ignoring the few breadcrumbs she has sent. She tried messaging me a few times, but not since early October of last year. All of a sudden she has now followed me on twitter... i'm unsure of what to do.. on one hand I kind of just want to put the squable behind us and be on friendly terms again, as I am over her.. On the other hand, I have kept NC for so long and I am still annoyed a bit I guess at the way she treated me. I have a feeling she would still bitch about me behind her back, and I don't want to hand the power back to her. I would never get back with her or do anything with her if anybody is wondering.. This sounds a bit childish, but I want to make her pay for how she treated me, and I know she just wants to relieve her guilt and see if she can still talk to me..
EgoJoe Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 You want to "get revenge" don't post a single thing about her or react. Post something about your amazing weekend on monday. Never post anything that isn't positive. keep moving forward.
Author robthefool Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 Ok, should I not follow her back then? It's annoying because part of me wants to just forget about her and is still annoyed for how I got treated.. but then I do kind of wish I could put it behind me. I guess I couldn't ever see myself being friends with her, and she has a long term boyfriend at the moment so I don't know. I definitely won't react don't worry.. I haven't reacted to any of her breadcrumbs for a year. I just think that this might be the last ever time that she 'reaches out' to try and contact me if you know what I mean, and it's harder to forget her because we were both eachother's first love.. Thanks though!
broken-and-lost Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 don't follow her back unless you want to tell her you still care and think about her
Author robthefool Posted March 12, 2012 Author Posted March 12, 2012 don't follow her back unless you want to tell her you still care and think about her I haven't followed her back.. i'm still thinking I shouldn't.. not totally sure
flitzanu Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 you could always just talk bad about her and see if she replies back. and if she does then ignore her. actually no, that's childish, don't do that. i would do it, personally, but i'm advising against it.
Author robthefool Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Well she unfollowed me the other day, probably because I didn't follow her back, and funnily enough soon after unfollowing me she tweeted something along the lines of 'so tired of all this crap, I hate life'
rootless Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Well she unfollowed me the other day, probably because I didn't follow her back, and funnily enough soon after unfollowing me she tweeted something along the lines of 'so tired of all this crap, I hate life' Oh jeez. If that's not a hollow scream for attention, I don't know what is. It's the same four-year-old impulse that fuels people to put cryptic, weak-ass status updates on FB and the like, "I'm not going to say who's a passive-aggressive idiot, but *somebooody* I know is really good at it". That's like the person who goes to a party and sits in the highest traffic area and pouts, just HOPING someone will ask them what's wrong. "Nothing.... ". <heavy, belabored sigh> Ugh. If they can't communicate face-to-face like a grown-up, blow them off. I love Twitter, and I like Facebook, but in the hands of people with no coping skills, they're horrendous. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Well she unfollowed me the other day, probably because I didn't follow her back, and funnily enough soon after unfollowing me she tweeted something along the lines of 'so tired of all this crap, I hate life' You don't need the drama. It's like having a FB status that reads: "I just can't believe it..." in the hopes that 42 people beg to wonder what's wrong.
Author robthefool Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Thanks guys. Yeah, I'm guessing that the comment she made was directed towards me as she unfollowed me sometime soon before she made it. I haven't talked to her since late April last year despite about 5 or 6 attempts from her to talk to me since then. This was the first time she had tried to contact me (even if it was passively by just following me on twitter) for about 5 months. I must say that I was very tempted to just follow her back and put this all behind me and just clear the air, but I am so glad that I didn't. Hopefully that is the last time she reaches out to contact me. I realised that I have nothing to gain from talking to her and being friendly apart from boosting her ego. 1
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