Leigh 87 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I find that I get hit on if I'm in the mood for it... Which suggests that, at least in my case, attitude has a lot to do with it. I can walk in my neighborhood and not have a single guy look at me and I can walk in my neighborhood and get hit on (chatted up / smiles / comments). The major difference is how I dress (glasses/no glasses seems to be a big one), look (no make up / make up), how I walk (fast-paced / relaxed), and my focus (lost in thought / paying attention to my surroundings). Basically, if I put in the effort, I get noticed. It's nice to "have control" over it. Me too, Kamille!!!!!! Except, I just get stared at a lot, not " hit on". I do not go out and sit in cafes or go clubbling or to pubs lately, due to financial strains.... BUT - sometimes, every guy that walks past me stares at me. - where as, if I am in a sh*tty mood, no guys bother really. I have BIG BOOBS - and am blonde. I think big boobs get lots of attention, even if the girl is not that beautiful. I am pretty, not stunning. Just good looking. A tad above average perhaps. I think t curvy body types, big boobs, abd shapely butt, and slim ( not sinny, but at least slim for the amount of curves u have). When I wear sunglasses, and walk outside, most guys stare at me - because I have a curvy body type, with huge boobs, bubble butt, and long blonde hair. I am not stunning, either.. it is just my boobs, long blonde hair, and the fact I am average/slim ( 5 ; 5, 129 ish lbs). I think there are SOME looks a lot of guys automatically stare at, due to what the media has conditioned us to believe is deirabe. Depending on my attitude, and my confidence I excude, I can get hi
musemaj11 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 True that good looks matter to women as well. As more and more women became the aggressors in the early stages of a relationship (doing the approaching and flirting) you see them choosing the best looking men... because if you're going to approach someone and risk rejection, well then you're gonna go after The Prize. Err, thats basically the reason why men are initiating with the top 1/3 of women because approachers are like buyers. When you go to a shop to buy something, you want the best good for your money.
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Err, thats basically the reason why men are initiating with the top 1/3 of women because approachers are like buyers. When you go to a shop to buy something, you want the best good for your money. Yes, but since women aren't usually the aggressors, it means that they maybe aren't as choosy about looks as men... Women are actually more likely to respond to LESS attractive men online.
Negative Nancy Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Either way, my original point was hot/above average women get hit on anywhere from sometimes to a lot, below average/ugly women rarely get hit on. And even then you (not you, but a general you) merely are the consolation prize while the guy's wishing the hot 10 would've given him a chance...
AD1980 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Yes, but since women aren't usually the aggressors, it means that they maybe aren't as choosy about looks as men... . lol that makes no sense..it has nothing to do with women not being choosy about looks.. women arent the agressors because society has said men should be the agressors and some women get a stigma nor being too agressive and we know a lot of women are slaves to labels put on by society.. Women who are agressive usually approach the Men they find the hottest just like Men do.. On a cold approach people can only go by what they see on the outside since they dont know the person yet..
Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 lol - I *wish* I got hit on all the time. Well, maybe not all the time. But regularly. I so don't. I think I'm pretty and enough other people do, too. But I'm just not hot or the perfect standard of beauty. I think you have to be a certain mass-appeal type to get hit on a lot. Maybe. I have more of a niche market, if you will. I feel like I get the "attention" of a guy (not necessarily blatantly hit on, but clearly him trying to talk to me in some way) maybe five to six times a year. By someone I'm interested in back, maybe 1-2 times a year. Maybe. If you're counting just a "look" from a guy (like 'ah you're kinda cute'), that's pretty regularly. But that's also not being hit on. So yeah...I don't get hit on very much.
Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Not necessarily true. A woman being average or above average is a very subjective thing one person's 7 maybe a 5 to another or a 10 to another. So guys really don't have a universal rating system for women. Just like women don't have a universal rating system for men. Like my pic yes that is me. One woman could say I'm sexy and another can say I'm ugly. It is very subjective. All of the guys I've dated have thought I was pretty or even beautiful. (The last guy I dated told me every other time I saw him that I was "gorgeous." I love him for that, even if he did break my motherf-ing heart). But of course they thought so because they were dating me. I don't get the notion I am anything greater than average from most of the male population. I am 90% invisible, I think. I'm thankful it's subjective, though. Plus, I think people over-estimate how much a pretty face matters to men. Men have to like your face, body, and overall essence. I've seen men be in love with all kinds of women. Sometimes a guy is with a less good-looking woman (who's still pretty) because her personality does it for him more. They're not all that different from women in that way.
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It is very subjective. All of the guys I've dated have thought I was pretty or even beautiful. (The last guy I dated told me every other time I saw him that I was "gorgeous." I love him for that, even if he did break my motherf-ing heart). But of course they thought so because they were dating me. I don't get the notion I am anything greater than average from most of the male population. I am 90% invisible, I think. I'm thankful it's subjective, though. Plus, I think people over-estimate how much a pretty face matters to men. Men have to like your face, body, and overall essence. I've seen men be in love with all kinds of women. Sometimes a guy is with a less good-looking woman (who's still pretty) because her personality does it for him more. They're not all that different from women in that way. It doesn't seem that subjective if a girl still has to be pretty in order to get a guy. Like I said in my post, guys seem to have subjective opinions on details, but attractive is attractive. If a girl is outright ugly (or Coyote Ugly, as an earlier poster put it) I doubt any guy is going to find her actually attractive. He's just gonna settle for her. Isn't that how it works?
Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It doesn't seem that subjective if a girl still has to be pretty in order to get a guy. Like I said in my post, guys seem to have subjective opinions on details, but attractive is attractive. If a girl is outright ugly (or Coyote Ugly, as an earlier poster put it) I doubt any guy is going to find her actually attractive. He's just gonna settle for her. Isn't that how it works? I didn't read your post or many of the others. But I'm not in disagreement with you. People can't be absolutely ugly. But most people, provided they meet some minimum level of attractiveness, are going to be "good-looking" to some people and just "okay" or "slightly above average" to others. That's how it's subjective.
xxoo Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 It doesn't seem that subjective if a girl still has to be pretty in order to get a guy. Like I said in my post, guys seem to have subjective opinions on details, but attractive is attractive. If a girl is outright ugly (or Coyote Ugly, as an earlier poster put it) I doubt any guy is going to find her actually attractive. He's just gonna settle for her. Isn't that how it works? If he genuinely falls in love with her, he isn't settling. Look at Charles and Camilla....those two were drawn to each other like magnets, and neither is attractive 1
Jane2011 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 My theories:My other guess is, those women who get hit on a lot without giving out any positive signals, have some very prominent body features that attract the guys. Either very big breasts or a significantly interesting butt. I agree. I don't get hit on all that much, but for whatever reason, over the years, many of my female friends have been hotties. (It's a horrible thing for me...). And they get hit on a lot. I think I mentioned this on one of my first posts on this board. My friends that get hit on a lot are about 5'6" or taller, thin, with very strikingly attractive faces, not just 'pretty' or 'cute'. Guys go out of their way to talk to them. I was walking down the street with one of these friends, and a guy came up to her and just said "I have to tell you that you are beautiful..." Hot women like that get hit on. If you're just a normal woman, guys just look at you real quick and then look away. Or something.
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 If he genuinely falls in love with her, he isn't settling. Look at Charles and Camilla....those two were drawn to each other like magnets, and neither is attractive I'd disagree, I think (especially when she was younger) Camilla was perfectly pretty. Yeah, he's not super attractive, but guys rarely need to be, especially if they have other things that make up for it. (Future King of England is probably one of those things.) He has to be attracted to her first in order to fall in love...
soserious1 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Then how do you explain the same types of women getting hit on over and over, and the same types getting ignored? How do you explain studies that confirm that 2/3rd of men hit on 1/3rd (the women rated the most attractive) of women online? because men don't like chubby women who whine?
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 because men don't like chubby women who whine? So 2/3rd of women are chubby and whiny? Oh no, wait, you were personally attacking me! I momentarily forgot that you're a b*tch.
soserious1 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 So 2/3rd of women are chubby and whiny? Oh no, wait, you were personally attacking me! I momentarily forgot that you're a b*tch. You can stomp your feet pissing & moaning till the cows come home protesting that it's not fair that men are attracted to pretty women, it won't make men want you anymore than they do now.
verhrzn Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 You can stomp your feet pissing & moaning till the cows come home protesting that it's not fair that men are attracted to pretty women, it won't make men want you anymore than they do now. I have done no such stomping and moaning. In fact, my post was SUPPORTING your assertion... That men are only attracted to pretty women, and they should stop hiding behind the bs of "Every woman is beautiful" "Beauty is subjective" etc. And mocking an ugly girl who is sad about their situation in the world, who has only ever asked you to leave her alone, doesn't make you a kind or beautiful person.
soserious1 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I have done no such stomping and moaning. In fact, my post was SUPPORTING your assertion... That men are only attracted to pretty women, and they should stop hiding behind the bs of "Every woman is beautiful" "Beauty is subjective" etc. And mocking an ugly girl who is sad about their situation in the world, who has only ever asked you to leave her alone, doesn't make you a kind or beautiful person. I'm not looking to be nominated for some sort of humanitarian award for kindness by you or anybody else. As far as the rest goes, about the only people who push that "Every woman is beautiful" nonsense are the Dove soap people in a push to sell products. 1
xxoo Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 I'd disagree, I think (especially when she was younger) Camilla was perfectly pretty. The general public consensus is that she is not pretty. People were shocked when he cheated on pretty Lady Di with a woman who was so plain. Still, I am sure he thinks she is quite pretty. Because he loves her!
ThaWholigan Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 The general public consensus is that she is not pretty. People were shocked when he cheated on pretty Lady Di with a woman who was so plain. Still, I am sure he thinks she is quite pretty. Because he loves her! LMAO Did Verzhn really say Camilla was pretty? Love is blind, Verzhn. Love can't see **** 1
musemaj11 Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 And even then you (not you, but a general you) merely are the consolation prize while the guy's wishing the hot 10 would've given him a chance... Just like every woman wishes for a wealthy handsome guy but not everyone can get one and most have to settle with someone less than they wish for.
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