krissy1989f Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Ok, so I have wrote on here before about a little issue i was having and now that i have all my thoughts put together i feel i can think more logically, but still asking for opinions To sum it up i was seeing this guy for 6 months...nothing serious he said he didn't even have time for a gf so basically we just really liked each other, saw each other maybe once a week and hooked up...sort of like a FWB situation even though i did want more but was dumb and just settled. Anyways, on New Years he didnt even ask to see me which really made me realize it wasnt anything...I made a mistake and I ended up hooking up with someone else that nite and felt HORRIBLE about it. I did tell him because I know he is a good guy and deserved to know because somehow to me it felt like cheating although technically it wasnt.... He wasnt happy about it and we stopped hanging out and everything for about 2 months now... I dated other guys but cant seem to get him off my mind so I gave up with the dating for now. Anyways, the guy this post is about recently started to contact me and we even hang out again (no hooking up though) and its just really nice...almost like nothing happened, and i recently moved an hour away and he has driven out here to see me. My question is should I continue to do this without asking him where its going? I'm done with the games and really want to settle down, I'm 22 years old and all this dating and hooking up is just getting old to me... I do have feelings for him still and would love to finally start something real but I feel like I've already ruined my chance... is that crazy of me to think? Idk someone let me know what they think!! thanks..
Mia Wallace Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I think he has already proven to you that he doesn't want to settle down and doesn't want a committed relationship. This is problem that I am having. I want a partner. I want to be a part of a couple. Most guys my age just want to play. Both me & you know what we want- a relationship, more than FWB. Its kind of stupid if we waste our time on guys if we already know they don't want the same thing as us. It just sets ourselves up to get hurt. I'm 25 and don't want to be 30 with a bunch a past sex partners that didn't mean anything. I love sex but I know that sex causes me to get attached, so I can't have FWB without hurting myself. If you really want a boyfriend with long term potential I think you are barking up the wrong tree with this guy.
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