juliebijoux Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I broke up with my ex of 3.5 years in August, but we saw each other off and on because we had a lot of mutual friends. We also slept together a few more times. We discussed that we could see other people but that we would tell each other. In January of this year I hooked up with a new guy and all hell broke loose. My ex started texting all of my friends constantly, asking how to get me back, saying he was suicidal, telling them that I was sleeping around with millions of guys. He also found the guy I hooked up with on fb and told him that he would beat him up. My ex told the girl that introduced me to the new guy that he would spit on her the next time he saw her. My ex also told her boyfriend this too. He came over to my house unannounced, begging to talk. I thought that I could reason with him, however, I realized that NC is the best way to go. I realize now that it was a big mistake on my part that I did not originally go NC at break-up. He still texts me that all our mutual friends hate me and will never forgive me. Since February 2nd I have been in NC. I avoid parties/events that he might attend. He sent me flowers on Valentine's Day. He texts me occasionally. But he texts my friends more and I found out that yesterday he asked one of my friends if I would still go to the yearly camping trip with him in May. Tonight I am going to a dinner party hosted by one of my friends, but I found out today that a good friend of my ex is going too. I have this feeling that he is going to bring my ex. I just wanted to go and have a good time, but now this is weighing over my head. There will only be about 10 people at the party, so it is not big enough to avoid him. Has anyone been in a similar situation before and do you have any advice?
Follower Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I think i would just skip the party there will be others, i would also consider utilising the police as he sounds dangerous tbh.
Author juliebijoux Posted March 13, 2012 Author Posted March 13, 2012 I did go to the party. However I checked ahead of time with the people who were going. They are having another party next weekend and he will be there so I am not attending that one. I think i would just skip the party there will be others, i would also consider utilising the police as he sounds dangerous tbh. I will include the police if he threatens me or anyone else. I should have had my friends save the messages that he sent to them that included threatening language back in January. In the future I realize now that the steps are: copy the email/text/fb post and report it. I was too nice before. I found out too that now he somehow has access to seeing my facebook page, through a mutual friend. So now I am not going to make sure that things are not posted on my facebook. I thought that blocking him would end all contact, but the only way to go is to either severly limit or delete facebook entirely. I am upset that my freedom is now limited. But since I can't include the police, then the only thing I can do is to limit my digital footprint.
Chi townD Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 dude has serious issues. Avoid him as much as possible. He needs professional help. 1
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