winterbaby82 Posted June 9, 2004 Posted June 9, 2004 my bf and i broke up 2 weeks ago (were together for 3 years) and i thought i was doin ok but i was wrong. some days i feel fine and some days i feel like total ****. we're still gonna be friends but we're also taking a bit of time apart right now to get in tune with the fact that we are actually broken up and won't see or talk to each other everyday. the hardest part about it is that we hang out with the same ppl. and he lives with one of my girlfriends (but theres nothing to worry about there!) and she's told me that he has told her stuff about how he's doin and feeling but she won't tell me what was said. she said she couldn't tell me because its personal too him. if he told her not to tell me then i would respect his decision, but he didn't.....he told her just for the sake of telling someone and she's dangling it in my face saying 'i know stuff about your ex that you don't but i'm not gonna tell you'. i know thats its probably better in the long run if i don't know everything thats goin on with him.....but i just wanna know what he's feeling. he's the kind of guy who's got too much pride to just admit to my face that he misses me, but i know he does.....i just wanna hear it! he was my best friend as well as my boyfriend and i can deal with losing a boyfriend.....but not a best friend. i've lost my chat buddy for work and school breaks, i don't have anyone to call and say goodnight and then goodmorning too......and i just miss him like i said we hang out with the same ppl, and even though his friends are still my friends, its like i've been booted out temporarily because they see me as the 'the X' now and not the girl that everyone would hang out with as a friend and IT SUCKS! i'm sad, i'm angry, i'm confused....i wanna cry, punch someone out and eat a choc fudge/strawberry sundae all at the same time. i guess all these feelings are normal in the break up process, but i've never done this before...he was my first long term serious relationship.....and now i'm just alone. i'm sorry i guess i've done more whining and complaining than explaining my situation and asking for help.....but if anyone has any advice on how to cope with all this i'd really appreciate it. thnx
supermom Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 When my ex and I first broke up and divorced, I had to stop hanging out w/ our mutual friends because they kept talking about him and his new wife....I got sick of it...It was ALL and the FIRST thing they would say....Not very respectful to me. If I see them in the store or something we chat..but it was too hard. geez..one time a couple that we were friends with invited me to a barbecue. I was 2 mos preg w/ my current H baby, and they promised me he wouldn' t be there. Well they picked me up, and as soon as we got there I saw my old car (he has it now). My H and I are now friends with him and his wife, but I gotta say that the disrespect I felt I will never forget. Sounds a little like your friend disrespecting you...
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