18month relationship, 4months NC.. Then she's in my bed the other day. Now what?

[stu1234]

Ridiculous headline lol thought it might get an attraction though.

Okay so we're both 20 both had our most serious relationship and then we broke up. She ended it saying she wasnt happy anymore. She was with someone else a few weeks later. Brutal.

 

I have seen a girl or two since but I have never given it my all, always been down about my ex and missing her. Nobody could compare. She hurt me so bad ending it but even now I still want her.

 

ANYWAY 3months into NC she text me saying she missed me and whatever. A few weeks later(wednesday 7th march) we met for a meal was pretty awkward. we enjoyed ourselves went separate ways but WOW it was strange. I went on to town texted her a little. Ended up coming back to my house she stayed over Wed night and then Thursday too not leaving at all. We spoke about SO MUCH seemed like everything was great. We both said how much we missed it and she said she would come back. She was jealous about other girls we had sex and what not everything seemed great kissing cuddling the works.

 

HOWEVER she left as I had to go to work. After work she's been texting me saying she is really confused about things and she's really sorry and whatever. I assume now she just wanted a little time together but the way it played out I really believed it was more. An incident with my nan sealed it as she was leaving the house my nan said she wasnt welcome here. That crushed her she cried and walked out.

 

Not sure whats happening now seems she wants to just be friends but I'm crushed. Any advice what I could say to her. It's clear from the way she was with me that she has missed me. Strange.

[wilsonx]

Say nothing, go back to nc.

 

She is still confused, perfectly natural in the timeline of gigs. Always 3-4 months in

[stu1234]

its so easy to say go back to NC but thats really a difficult thing to do. I know her ex is still hassling her so I suppose hardly contacting her would make her realise more. I have learnt from previous mistakes where texting someone too much and stuff can have a really bad affect when space is what is really required.

I will definitely be giving her space.

 

With the issue relating to my nan she was cut up about it spoke to me on the phone today said maybe we should be friends. she needs space regardless hope she comes around nothing I can really do though