pharrigan210 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 It generally takes me a long time to ejaculate with my gf. which i guess is better than the opposite. Recently we shared a few of our past sexual adventures. She told me that one time, a long time ago, she cheated on a guy she was engaged to with his best friend. while we were getting it on she described it to me in vivid detail. i ended up ejaculating really quickly. It was a MAJOR turn on. An infidelity fantasy? What do you think of my fascination? Believe it or not, i did some research on sexual fantasies. here are the most common purposes: a) Fantasies are frequently used to escape real-life sexual restraints and to imagine dangerous or illegal scenarios. b) a person may use fantasy to focus and maintain arousal. c) can enhance exciting sexual acts to promote higher levels of arousal. Now i am clearly doign all three. But i have nothing to say about a. But i do have something to say about b and c - are they insulting? "maintain arousal" and "enhancing." at first glance, I would say yes - it's insulting. why do i need to maintain or enhance. shouldn't it be good enough on its own? but on second thought, maybe it's not insulting. fantasy's are EXTREMELY common. right? that means everyone that acts out a sexual fantasy is "maintaining" or "enhancing." if so many people do it, can it really be considered insulting. isnt' that the way of the world? thoughts?
TaraMaiden Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Yup. If he hasn't put that forward as the topic that worries him - then in this topic, that's not the issue. He has asked for feedback on his fantasy questions..... OP: i wouldn't know, and couldn't possibly comment. I never fantasise.
TaraMaiden Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 :laugh: Good point! I wonder how that would work....? 1
GG2W Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Why fantasies? Simple! It more than doubles the sexual experience. And as for the cheating fantasy, some of us get off on screwing cheating wifes. And as for the wives, they seem to go into high gear when I remind them that their husbands are probably at that moment watching the evening news, not knowing at that very moment his wife is cheating and getting her brains f'd out. You would be surprised how often they discover at that very moment that they are able to squirt
TaraMaiden Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 woman is getting it on , with lover, in her bedroom. everything is really steamy.... and the phone rings. Wife interruptus coitus, and answers 'phone: "Hello...? Oh, hello darling.....Yes..... oh, ok..... no that's fine...... ok, that's great. yup, see you soon! bye darling!" *Blows kiss down 'phone.* Lover, alarmed, sits up. "Who was that - ?!" "My husband," replies wife, getting down and cozy again... "Jeezus kerrist! is he coming home?" "No..... He's at a poker game.... apparently, with you."
MusicMan1234 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Hey OP, I totally understand where you're coming from, I have the same thing! Still haven't been able to figure it out though, sorry!
Black Jack Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 It generally takes me a long time to ejaculate with my gf. which i guess is better than the opposite. Recently we shared a few of our past sexual adventures. She told me that one time, a long time ago, she cheated on a guy she was engaged to with his best friend. while we were getting it on she described it to me in vivid detail. i ended up ejaculating really quickly. It was a MAJOR turn on. An infidelity fantasy? What do you think of my fascination? Believe it or not, i did some research on sexual fantasies. here are the most common purposes: a) Fantasies are frequently used to escape real-life sexual restraints and to imagine dangerous or illegal scenarios. b) a person may use fantasy to focus and maintain arousal. c) can enhance exciting sexual acts to promote higher levels of arousal. Now i am clearly doign all three. But i have nothing to say about a. But i do have something to say about b and c - are they insulting? "maintain arousal" and "enhancing." at first glance, I would say yes - it's insulting. why do i need to maintain or enhance. shouldn't it be good enough on its own? but on second thought, maybe it's not insulting. fantasy's are EXTREMELY common. right? that means everyone that acts out a sexual fantasy is "maintaining" or "enhancing." if so many people do it, can it really be considered insulting. isnt' that the way of the world? thoughts? If this is not a troll.... Her describing her affair with her ex's "best friend" goes to show that she'll do the same to you, if she hasn't already. If you like being hurt and cuckolded then be my guest, but infidelity is pretty serious around here. Not something to play around with (no pun intended). 2
standtall Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 This should be in the sex section, not here with the hurt people. I'm calling troll as well. 1
Diamonds&Rust Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 It's good to know that after 10 years, the culture of LoveShack is still somewhat dominated by people by wounded infidelity controlling discussions that have nothing to do with them. An infidelity fantasy? What do you think of my fascination? It's a very common one. Are you okay with having it?
Lecturer Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Cuckold and cheating wife fantasies are extremely common. I recently read that it is now the 2nd most searched 'category' of porn (cookies for whomever can guess the *most* common category.. it's very telling of some hypocrisy in our society). There's a number of reasons why it increases arousal. The most common biological reasons involve competition - studies have found that males that believe or have knowledge their female mate has recently mated with another male will produce a greater volume of sperm (which has parallels to increased orgasm intensity). The most common psychological reason is the increased sexual 'value' that is attributed to a 'multiple-mate-female', by knowing that she has or could be with others (ie: she has the power/ability to be with others, but instead is with YOU at that moment, so you've 'won'). If you research it further, you can find plenty more reasons. So no, a cheating fantasy is not weird or uncommon, but actually one of the most common out there.
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