Eno Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Yeah, this is another thread with the theme of text messaging... I'm sick of being in relationships where I'm completely oblivious to a guy's lack of interest. I always try to rationalize why they are or aren't doing something when I should have just looked at it with face value. Needless to say, in my current relationship, I have my not-into-you antenna up. However, I've also been known to overreact... To make a long story short, my boyfriend most of time texts me when he's going to work. He didn't today. I waited a couple of hours and said screw it and texted him. He apologized and said that he's tired from working the past couple of days. I don't know what to think. Looking back at past text records, it's about 50-50 with who initiates the text, but it seems like I'm doing it slightly more the past few days. Plus, how hard is it to text someone asking them how they're doing, good morning, etc? Or I don't know. Maybe I'm just overreacting. My past boyfriends never ever texted so this is a new playing field for me. Thoughts? Someone slap me if need be.
g450 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 HOAL is 100 percent correct. You are reading too much into this. My Fiancee used to freak out sometimes if I didnt text her several times a day while we were dating. It doesnt mean anything. That's the purpose of texting, you do it when its convenient for you to do so. And chasing all the time can be a bit draining. And as HOAL said, I had problems early in the relationship because texts can easily be missinterpreted due to lack of facial and voice reading of emotional state. Its really a crappy form of communication but it is convient.
mortensorchid Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 FUnny, I was thinking this myself today. But, like they say, the key to any successful relationship is communication skills. Today I sent a text to my boyfriend asking if he was at work today. No response. Then I called and left a voice mail message. Afterward, he sent a text saying he had a hideous headache and was going to spend the night on the couch nursing the headache. I said "Ok, we'll talk soon". COmmunication is key to anything, and it's ok that I am sitting in front of the computer in my pjs doing nothing.
g450 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Yes communication is important. That's why you dont do it by texting. Texting is for something like "dont forget the eggs", not meaningful relationship dialog. Like we said, texting is a poor substitute for face to face communication. And some women over do the texting thing to the point where they are communicating that they are insecure. There is no reason to text me 20 times while Im at work to tell me how your day went. Wait for me to come home for that where we can really connect.
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