pacman81 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Its been 3 weeks since NC but i know its just a matter of time until we run into each other at the gym. I have changed around my schedule in going to reduce the chances of running into her but i know its bound to happen eventually and would like to already have in my head the best way to handle things. She is the one who asked for space and things were left with me saying its up to her on when she is ready to talk or see me...pretty much that i will not be initiating anything. I figured the best way to handle things would be just smile and wave if we make eye contact and see each other...definitely not approach her but if she comes up to me keep things very cordial and brief. Thoughts? Experiences? Does and donts? Reading this forum has been a huge help...i bet we all wish we found it sooner! Thanks 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 can't you join another gym, that way you don't have to worry at all.seems like part of you is hoping to run into her.
M2155 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Funny I worried about this quite a bit and it never happened. I think you have the right idea. Just hello and keep it moving.
Chi townD Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I would say just keep on avoiding her as much as possible. Sounds like you're already doing that, but it also sounds like you're making excuses to see her. I hope I'm wrong. If, on the off chance you see her, ignore her as if she's nothing more than another member of that gym. Because, honestly, that's all she is to you right now.
Author pacman81 Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 The problem with changing gyms is that the gym we both go to is on the ground floor of the building I live in...so usually i can see if her car is there in the garage and go at a different time. But that led to what just happened a few minutes ago! Pulled into the garage and was driving through and who is standing outside her car talking to a another girl? Yup my ex...thats right 11pm on a friday night i see her in the parking garage...give me a break...geeze. Anyways, I just waved as i drove by with a smile on my face.
sweetheart5381 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Ya, I can identify with the "running into them" part. I work in the same dept as my ex (thankfully our desks are in different areas) and we share the same printer, same kitchenette, same smoking area, etc. We see each other several times every day for the most part. He too wanted "space" then ended the relationship very angrily when I texted him how I felt about the "space" situation. It's tough, but it is quite possible to just see them as just another person you don't really know. At first it was very difficult, my heart would race, my hands would shake, but now I just see it as inevitable that our paths will cross and have learned to calm the tension in me. I do not avoid him nor do I not pay him any attention anymore (much different than during our relationship) because he is a stranger now, he made it that way. Be a stranger to them, you will thank yourself for it in the end.
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