TaintedHeart Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I've been seeing this guy but is seems like he is messing me around. He tells me that he really likes me but fails to actually show it. He has been slacking with texts/calls, I bit my tongue for a while but felt like I should raise the matter, so I did! Maybe it was wrong of me but it's done now. It turned into a heated discussion but we still didn't get to the bottom of it. I gave him the opportunity to tell me if he has lost interest but he didn't take it. I'm pretty drained from trying to work him out and tired of the bickering. I was thinking about going 'silent' on him. Not to be sinister towards him, more for my own benifit, for some 'time out'. It honestly feels like my head has had enough! So would this be a selfish act?
woots31 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 This is a tough question to field. If you give the space that you see as possibly selfish, and he has in fact lost interest, it could give him the space necessary to move on with the other interest. On the other hand, it could break up the what he is use to and he could turn around and come running to you out of fear of losing you. I had issues with my ex where I felt like I was the only one reaching out and so I waited until he finally got a hold of me. When he finally got a hold of me it was to ask me what sort of game I was playing. I did not see it as a game. I just wanted to know that he wanted to get in contact with me as much as I wanted to be in contact with him. So I guess I showed him what it was like to not have me chase and he did not like it. Nothing changed however.
woots31 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I should say however, if you are drained then give yourself the break.
cerridwen Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 I've been seeing this guy but is seems like he is messing me around. He tells me that he really likes me but fails to actually show it. He has been slacking with texts/calls, I bit my tongue for a while but felt like I should raise the matter, so I did! Maybe it was wrong of me but it's done now. It turned into a heated discussion but we still didn't get to the bottom of it. .I gave him the opportunity to tell me if he has lost interest but he didn't take it I'm pretty drained from trying to work him out and tired of the bickering. I was thinking about going 'silent' on him. Not to be sinister towards him, more for my own benifit, for some 'time out'. It honestly feels like my head has had enough! So would this be a selfish act? What do you consider "slacking"? Are you sure your expectations are reasonable? Maybe he didn't take the opportunity to tell you he's lost interest because he actually hasn't. Perhaps he's one of those guys who prefers less contact. I've had guys blow up my phone with texts throughout the day and others who prefer to speak once a day. Maybe this is his communication style and he's not trying to jerk you around.
fencesitter Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 If a guy is really into you, wild horses could not stop him from showing it. You raised the point, the convo didn't end well...girl...BE SELFISH and leave him in the dust. You can't argue someone into showing you they care. And you deserve someone who thinks enough of you to text or call once in a while. Go silent. Ignore his words and only judge his sincerity by his ACTIONS.
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