Shyguy0898 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Girl at work she is 21 i am 27, she split with her boyfriend about a month ago. Where is work job is mundane and boring so we exchange emails, i make her laugh on emails,all good fun to get through a days work, after about a week of exchanging these emails find out she is depressed, never really get into why, turns out she is on antidepressants. on the friday she gives me her number and i ask her out on the sat to cheer her up. About two hours before the date she flakes on me, as she had 2 babysit, i had only spoke 2 her about 40 minutes earlier, she did stay in as she posted some pics on fbook which king of proved she was in, she texted me to let me down i replied no problem it couldn't be helped,i got a text back saying said she was really sorry and would make it up to me, back at work on monday we are exchanging emails we were joking about something i mentioned her letting me down at weekend, again she put about her letting me down, again she said she was very sorry and would make it upto me. i replied as in before a certain date but there was no mention in her email reply. throughout the week the emails carry on just banter and a little flirty to get throught the day,today we exchanging emails she tells me her strengths as a girlfriend i reply saying i like the sound of this women, she replies i am sweet which i don't like tbh as i am thinking im friend zoning myself. later on that day there is the subject of the weekend what were upto, tonight i make out i was going out,says she is staying in most of the weekend, i ask her if she is babysitting. apologies if the grammar not the best, should i ask her out tommorow, give up as its a non starter, she has either changed her mind, liked the attention she still likes her ex hence the depression or just move on. advice thoughts would be apreciated please.
eleanorhurting Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 1 month after the break up is way too soon. Be there for her as a friend.
dasein Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 The rule of thumb, admittedly with exceptions but not many, is that when they cancel plans with you without suggesting a definite raincheck or alternate get together, they just aren't interested. Apply it as you will. I'd give it one more go, but not on a weekend, start any new dating relationship on weekday nights. Allows you to preserve your weekend time, and IME, women seem to respond better and be more relaxed on early weeknight dates. The only thing I can see you did wrong is starting up with a woman only a month broken up. Those tend to be bad bets, but in this day and age, where women relationship hop so, it's tough to find them behaving in a healthy manner by taking time out between relationships, so no harm no foul on your part.
Imajerk17 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 A 21-year-old girl one month after a break-up is flakier than week-old pastry. 4
Author Shyguy0898 Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 ill probably just casually ask her out casually in the week 1 day, Just carry on having a laugh with her at work, she did say when she exchanged emails as i have been a bit depressed due to a bereavment, would it cheer you up if i said i liked you.
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