BetheButterfly Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Hello I have been married for about 6 months now, and it is such a delight to get to know my husband and for him to get to know me in our daily lives!!! We have some silly expressions we say that are hilarious to us, but may not mean much to other people. For example, one day at a grocery market, we heard an automatized register instruct a person to "Move your ... bananas" off of the conveyer belt. We burst out laughing and it is now how we tell each other to get moving. When I take a long time getting ready for something (which is normal for me) my husband cheerfully tells me to "Move your bananas!" I love it!!! Also, my husband is a sort of cocky man, who is drop-dead handsome and is eccentric in a way. He reminds me a lot of Johnny Depp and after we watched the latest Pirate move with Johnny Depp, my husband adopted the saying "As do I" which he says sometimes after I tell him I love him. Another expression that he made up and I forgot how exactly, is substituting I fluff you for I love you. We both say that to each other. I love to drive him nuts by kissing pictures of animals and wishing them good night or good morning. He tries to grab me back before I do so, which is a hilarious game we have. (I decorated the apartment with pictures of animals - dolphins and sea turtles in the bathroom, wolves in our bedroom, dogs in the hallway, wildcats/deer/bears/horses/and butterflies in the livingroom/kitchen.) We can't have pets in the house. sigh Another thing I like to do is lean back when he is holding my hands. I love to feel his strength and he thinks I'm so weird but it is so much fun because I know he won't let me fall over. I also love to wrestle with him, as long as he doesn't tickle me too much! So, what are some funny, silly things you and your spouse do? It may be weird or not but things that you and your mate does no matter what other people think? 5
Author BetheButterfly Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 I once read a study on successful relationships. 'The' determining predictor of a relationship being healthy and long lasting was that the couple develops their own verbal banter. Otherwise, their own peculiar words, expressions etc. This is a sign of bonding and emotional intimacy. This language was from the obvious... using terms of endearment for eachother instead of first names. But, also, your type of examples that might mean nothing to an outsider. Cool My husband is Spanish, and his term of endearment for me is "Mi Vida" = My Life, and my term of endearment for him is "Mi Amor" = My Love. Though sometimes people just say terms of endearment out of tradition, it does help when one means it heart and soul, which I believe we do!
Ursa Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 We have a lot of nicknames for each other...two in particular that have stood the test of time, and are based on our own insider stories with each other. He buys me little tchotchkes occasionally that have to do with his name for me, a little token of affection. We have a variety of inside jokes, but these days many of them have to do with some of the more off-the-wall things our kids have randomly said or done. We have "cave creatures" soup, and sometimes we have to cry out "Connecticut!" or "Banana pants!" for no apparent reason, or do the little "I have a penis" or the "Victory over flashlights" dances. When we were dating and spending all day talking about our samenesses and differences while lounging around naked in bed, I touched his forehead in an apparently pretty distinctive way about where his "third eye" should be (according to some), when I was exclaiming about how fascinating and weird his thought processes are, trying to figure out the twists and turns of his big brain. Seven years later he still does this to me every time he can't figure out what the hell turn my mind has taken . 1
Author BetheButterfly Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 We have a lot of nicknames for each other...two in particular that have stood the test of time, and are based on our own insider stories with each other. He buys me little tchotchkes occasionally that have to do with his name for me, a little token of affection. We have a variety of inside jokes, but these days many of them have to do with some of the more off-the-wall things our kids have randomly said or done. We have "cave creatures" soup, and sometimes we have to cry out "Connecticut!" or "Banana pants!" for no apparent reason, or do the little "I have a penis" or the "Victory over flashlights" dances. When we were dating and spending all day talking about our samenesses and differences while lounging around naked in bed, I touched his forehead in an apparently pretty distinctive way about where his "third eye" should be (according to some), when I was exclaiming about how fascinating and weird his thought processes are, trying to figure out the twists and turns of his big brain. Seven years later he still does this to me every time he can't figure out what the hell turn my mind has taken . Awesome!!! "I have a penis" dance lol You and your mate sound like so much fun!!! Life together is so beautiful when people have fun and enjoy each other!!!
Ursa Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Awesome!!! "I have a penis" dance lol Yeah, my husband does that one more than I do. It's almost as cute as when our toddler does it, just in a different way . I don't think we have as many of these inside jokes and games as we used to in the first years...once you get busy with kids, it's hard to find as much time for those long intimate, funny moments...but it's still really important to make some time, to keep those moments alive, even if they're a little further apart than they used to be.
Author BetheButterfly Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Yeah, my husband does that one more than I do. It's almost as cute as when our toddler does it, just in a different way . Lol! I bet! I don't think we have as many of these inside jokes and games as we used to in the first years...once you get busy with kids, it's hard to find as much time for those long intimate, funny moments...but it's still really important to make some time, to keep those moments alive, even if they're a little further apart than they used to be. Yeah you are right! My husband and I don't have kids yet, but that's great advice, to keep precious moments alive!!
Afishwithabike Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 We have nicknames for each other. They're food based nicknames too. He sometimes calls me his hot chocolate because I can tan very easily unlike him. He burns in the sun unlike me. Our code word for sex is "BBQ". So if he texts me "Do you want some BBQ tonight?" I know he's not talking about firing up the grill. 2
Stillgrowing Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 The cute private language definately drops off after the years and is replaced by toddler-speak and then pre-teen mimicing but I do remember the days of having our own sayings. Now it's more likely a single word or a look or a hand gesture that says it all in a crowded room. If I make a fist with one hand and lightly slap the other hand flat on top of it, it means someone is being a tool. Similar to a jacking off motion but not as vulgar. I look back at cards we sent each other and there are sayings that I don't remember...keep a list! I would love to know now what some things that we thought were *hilarious* meant. We're more now likely to shout "mimosine" which is what our kids called a limo when they were little. It's such a subtle evolution you don't even notice it. Enjoy it!!!!!!!
PenelopeTheFaithful Posted March 13, 2012 Posted March 13, 2012 Being silly together really matters to us as we both have very grown up, serious careers. We have pet names, in jokes and little rituals but when we really get going we're like stand-up comics on speed! "The couple that plays together, stays together".
Funsize Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 She reads her romance novels out loud to me and we will laugh about all the cliche words/lines. Like "Humble" or "throbbing" or "She wasn't beautiful, she was average looking". Then we end up acting out the scene . Its like roleplaying with her hobby lol.
beenburned Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Fish, We also have a code phrase for when we want sex, it's "I miss you". It can be said in front of anyone, and they wouldn't think anything of it. But even in a room full of people, my H's face lights up with a big grin when I tell him this. I'm still laughing over the BBQ!!!
Afishwithabike Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 (edited) Fish, We also have a code phrase for when we want sex, it's "I miss you". It can be said in front of anyone, and they wouldn't think anything of it. But even in a room full of people, my H's face lights up with a big grin when I tell him this. That's funny! Do you two crack up when you hear other people say to each other "I miss you" ? I would! So far I haven't heard too many people say they want BBQ, but if they did I know I'd get a laugh out of it. Edited March 15, 2012 by Afishwithabike 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Oh I love this topic so much. It's exactly those inside jokes which are the most beautiful thing about love and consolidate the bond you have. The few times I really loved a man there were always such things, as such insignificant when taken out of context but they meant the world to me.
PinkInTheLimo Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 We're more now likely to shout "mimosine" which is what our kids called a limo when they were little. Love it! When my brother was a kid he was always talking about the Anton-bomb instead of the atombomb and it never failed to have the rest of the family rolling over the floor laughing. He also used to say "My name is Nobio" when he actually meant "My name Nobody" which was even more funny considering that English is not my mothertongue so that was something he had picked up in some American movie and used to pretend to be a tough guy...
Feelin Frisky Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 (edited) When one of us was already in bed and the other was washing up or getting ready or w/e, the last party would jump in the bed and exclame "pajama buddies!" then we laugh and kiss. When I use to tell my ex finace (Italian) to come here and give me some tongue, I'd say in a real Brooklyn ginny accent to "come over here and gimme a slice o' baloney". She always accommodated with a grin. Edited March 15, 2012 by Feelin Frisky
g450 Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Well lets see... We sing to each other while dancing at the club. I think it annoyes the crap out of some people there. We have fart contests. Sometimes even our dog joins in. We are such romantics! Whenever she gets horney she shows me her ass and leaves a trail of clothes for me to follow on the floor. There are a ton of others that I cant remember. My XW wasnt nearly as fun as my Fiance is. I now realise that I could never be with a woman who didnt have a sense of humor.
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