mymission Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 We've been broken up about a month. I text terrorized for a week or so and then went no contact. He then contacted me first, and I replied. But its like its opened a gate, i've text him 1st twice, we had mini conversations and that was it. But I told him today that we can't talk unless there's a chance of us getting back together because it prolongs my recovery. He said ok but I got really upset and sent like 3 texts saying I miss him, I want him back, and I wanted to see him. Idiot.
BMZMJ Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I dont blame you because I recently did the same. I did not ask her to take me back, but instead asked to hang out, talk, and get to see a new side of me... best to come on here and type in here what you want to say. what I say to myself as I pound my chest is "I am strong. I am strong"
leoc1973 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Don't feel bad I think 99% of us do it! Then later kick ourselves. Ya gotta ask yourself honestly do you want him back? Then figure the only way to get him back is to leave him alone. Every time you get weak and wanna text or call him ask yourself "what is texting him going to do?" and the answer to that is push him further away. Think of it as if your in prison and you are trying to get early parole. You know that punching another inmate will keep you there longer, right? So same thing here texting him will keep him away from you longer, Possibly forever. Leave him alone with his thoughts. He is hurting and misses you and every time you send him a message telling him you love him you take almost all his pain away.
CaliBabe Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Its okay to slip up. But once you realize it, stop and walk away with your dignity. You will be happy you did later on.
Linda Lee Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 (edited) Don't blame yourself too much, after all you openly expressed what you really feel. Though, it was a wrong move, but it is better than letting this feelings pile up inside your chest, moreover his reactions to your latest text will show how much he is careful about your feelings, if he keeps his promises than you don't have to worry about the relationship, however if he will use this in his advantage, than it becomes obvious that he values his ego more than your happiness. You see always there is a bright side of everything we do. Edited March 9, 2012 by Linda Lee
M2155 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I totally feel you, been there. It is so hard to quit and walk away. The first step for me was deleting his number so I couldn't text. If you absolutely cannot forget the number, change the name to "have some dignity" or "you can do better" or something so you see it every time you go to text. Then go find some really good friends or good books or something to do. It is hard, but in time you will get over it. I certainly remember what feeling like an idiot felt like lol. He'll forget, so will you.
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