Radagast Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Anyone here get married for the "wrong" reason? Anyone here stay married for the "wrong" reason?
greenfield Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Twice I married for the wrong reason... Two different reasons- same mistake. I have my explanations and at my stage in life the revelation and intelligence associated is now useless... I have been seeing connections, threads and even clues of to an eventual meeting of a relationship of higher order... This keeps me moving forward...
Feliciti Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Not that I'm married or anything, but out of sheer curiousity: What wrong reasons? Pregnacy? Child?
denise_xo Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I guess the thing with that question is that it is often a matter of hindsight - so at the time we didn't experience it in the way that we see it later. I don't think I got married for the wrong reasons, but I did get married too fast.
Author Radagast Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 Not that I'm married or anything, but out of sheer curiousity: What wrong reasons? Pregnacy? Child? That would vary case by case. For myself, I married because it made financial sense to do so. We'd been living together for years when new tax legislation made marriage seem the sensible option. She wasn't keen, she'd been married before and found it oppressive and only agreed on the understanding that it would change nothing, we'd carry on as before. As for staying married for the wrong reasons, well by then we had children. We had agreed no children, and I really should have left her when she refused to abort since that was breaking the agreement, but I did my duty and stayed. To do right by the kids, even though their mother was a lying duplicitous ****.
Feliciti Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 That would vary case by case. For myself, I married because it made financial sense to do so. We'd been living together for years when new tax legislation made marriage seem the sensible option. She wasn't keen, she'd been married before and found it oppressive and only agreed on the understanding that it would change nothing, we'd carry on as before. Hmm, difference in countries then. In Denmark, there really are no real sense in marriage aside from "protection", to prevent one part of losing everything in case of a divorce. Makes marriages seem awfully superficial, and the involved people seems highly distrustful of each other. Doesn't seem all that "romantic" as people make it out to be.
Tethys Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Yes - I think I got married because I didn't have the strength to be honest with myself or with her and say this isn't going to make me happy. (The answer to both questions.)
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