nati23 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Hi, at the beginning I want to say sorry for making a new post but I can't find a answer for my question anywhere I want to ask for a help.. This weekend I'm going out with my black friends and there is one guy ( he tell my friend that he likes me ) and I he is very attracted and I can tell that I like him as well. ok then we are going out and later (probably) he will want come to mine. Hmm I'm ok with that but I know that he will want something more than cuddles. I'm 22 and I'm single but.. Yes its a big BUT... maybe you will think that I'm crazy but I can't have a sex with him because I'm not that kind of girl who sleep with a guy at a first date.. I want to know him better, I don't want to be use like a toy... And now is a question. I heard that black guy are very horny and when they want sex, they want sex now! It's true that when a girl will say NO ( for a sex) because she want to know him, he will put a cross on her ?? and he lost interest with her ? Or he will appreciate that the girl want to wait ?? I know the question i stupid but I really want to know what are you thinking about it. Nati, (P.S I'm sorry for my grammar )
kaylan Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Um, this issue is not unique to black fellows...so I dont know why you needed to mention race. Either way, if the guy actually likes you as more than just a hook up, then he obviously will have no problem of you want wanna have sex right way.
Author nati23 Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 I'm sorry, I didn't want to offend anyone when I mention a race. thank you for a answer.
kaylan Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Sorry, I did not proof read my post. It has typos. Here is what I meant to write; Either way, if the guy actually likes you as more than just a hook up, then he obviously will have no problem if you dont wanna have sex right way. So if a guy actually thinks youre someone he wants to date seriously, he will with ok with waiting for sex. Sorry for the typing error.
TigerCub Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Yeah, that's not a black guy specific issue. Black guys are like other guys. So..this guy could be sweet and understanding if you want to wait, or he could be a dick that just wanted to **** you and if you don't sleep with him, he'll blow you off later - not because he's a black guy, just because of what he really wants and his maturity level, and how much he really likes you, etc... Good luck and don't do anything you're not really comfortable doing.
HeyFriends Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 .. na, not only black guys do this but guys in general. Ive had guys stop talking to me because I wouldnt put out right away. oh well. thats a favor to you because im sure he really isnt interested anyway. just see how everything goes
ThatDudeXO Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Before you do anything with this guy, don't give him special treatment or talk/act differently because he is a black guy. It is not an issue here yet you highlighted it in your question. If you give off the "you're my first black guy" vibe, then he won't take you seriously or will be offended. Treat him like anyone else you've dated before. How do I know? All my relationships have been interracial relationships 1
stillafool Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Why would anyone who was interested in dating a guy treat him differently because he is black?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Yeah btw, dont bring a guy to your place if you dont want him to think that youre having sex with him. And not on the first date. Go to a coffee shop, dinner, movies whatever, but DO NOT bring a guy to your place unless you plan on sex. Lotta guys mistakenly think that is a come on for sex. Has nothing to do with being black. Men in general who just want sex from you will put a cross on you if they dont get it. You have to figure out on the first date whether or not thats what he wants.
FitChick Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Go to a coffee shop, dinner, movies whatever, but DO NOT bring a guy to your place unless you plan on sex. Lotta guys mistakenly think that is a come on for sex. And don't go to his place if he says he will cook dinner for you -- for the same reason.
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