loveydove Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 (edited) It's been three weeks and I got an e-mail saying he hopes I don't hate him, and he's thinking of me, and misses talking every day. He wants to know all about how I am. It seems like a friendly email, and I don't want to fall into a friend zone. I don't know what to do. Help! Edited March 9, 2012 by loveydove
tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Its a trap. His intentions are not good. My recent ex did the same thing. Saying he just wanted to "talk" . Ya right... Talk about what? U cant be friends , it is really hard unless there is absolutely NO feelings on either end. And that normally takes awhile... I would ignore him. 2
LSgirl Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I know what it's like to tell someone DON'T CONTACT HIM! And when it comes to your own situation, you second guess yourself. If I had posted this, I would have told myself, don't do it, it'll only set you back. SO, I will tell you the same thing. There's nothing you will get out of this. You might wonder what else has to say, how much he misses you, but most likely you will just be disappointed and heatbroken all over again and regret it. If I get something like this (mine has reached out twice in the 10 days of NC) I will definitely be curious and anxious, but nothing will really change. What's done is done, and it's none of his business what you're doing, what he's doing, he's an EX! Let him wonder, let him second guess himself if that's what he's doing, let him move on, but do this for YOU! There's a reason everyone says NC, and no doubt that most people end up regretting making that reply back! mmhmm, stay NC 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 He hopes you are crying over him; needs his ego stroked. He also wants to dump his guilt and if you answer him, he will feel better about himself. don't feed the animals at the zoo is what I am telling you.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Don't you just love it when the person who dumps you wants to know how you are? Makes me ill. 1
Author loveydove Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Don't you just love it when the person who dumps you wants to know how you are? Makes me ill. I know! right?? what is that about.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I know! right?? what is that about. Hey! I screwed with your mind and then dumped you, but...how are you? these dumpers need to go and think about their actions. 1
stimson554 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 send him a pictue of u kissin another guy, that'll shut his ass up preeety quickly. 6
GKM Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Ugh what a JERK! Dont even reply! Remember- he DUMPED you! My ex who dumped me was supposed to come during specific hours while I was out of the house to get some of his stuff- I get home from work and GUESS who pulls up at the same time??! WTF....I gave him a few things but then shooed him out and locked the door as I had to get to a friends house soon after work and needed to get ready. Sorry- MY house now, my rules! The one positive- the sexy firefighter who I had gone on a date with had given me a calendar and I had hung it up with his photo showing in the kitchen and I know my ex saw it...haha! Serves him right
chelsea2011 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Take it from someone who has answered breadcrumb texts in the past...it changes absolutely nothing! Notta thing. Who cares if he is missing you; he shouldn't have treated you like secondhand news in the first place. Right? I say IGNORE ignore ignore. There are better days AND options ahead!
M2155 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Ok I agree with everyone to just ignore it! You're still fresh and caught up with emotions. This is just him needing to know how you are affected. If this was further down the road where you are more over it (becuase he'll probably keep trying if you ignore him), I would reply "Thanks." I had a guy where anytime I would text/email/write stuff like I was thinking about him or hope he was doing well or something he would say "aww" or "thanks." Ignoring drives me crazy but the one word answer drove me bonkers. It made me feel like I was being mushy and he was cool and dismissive. Ugh! Feed the breadcrumb to your friend delete.
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