alexknight Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Sorry for the long post. Met a guy ended up buying his parents house when they moved thinking we would live there together (they wouldnt sell to him--he had no real job) bought the house told him what i expected up front financially (believe me it wasnt much 200 a month) months into it he still didnt work.. meanwhile my bills were going up and up and up.. finally he got a job.. still getting him to contribute was like pulling teeth.. so he finally moved out. However, before he moved out there was a lot of drama ... we both ended up in jail he lied to the cops saying it was his house and i damaged his poperty.. charges dropped. however a long story short is he wants me back. he is nice.. affectionate ...etc however he does seem to take advantage of me no matter what. he no longer lives with me so i do see him sometimes.. however he likes to come raid my fridge.. etc. and tell em he has no groceries cuz he cant get to the store... idk if im petty but really it feels like the same cycle again. he just takes advantage til i turn into a person i no longer want to be.... and it gets worse tonite he was supposed to come over and i said where are u .. he replies "at the corner" i said ok... so then i let it go.. (he is prob at the bar) and i asked really where u and he says home. is that not a weird response or is it me? god im a mess
Mr Scorpio Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Wow. You know, there are plenty of professional, respectful, adult men out there? You should quit wasting your time with this child!
leoc1973 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 What is his situation? is he looking for work? is he laid off? In school? Times are tough you can't dump a good guy if he can't find work. There are a lot of people who will tell you dump the loser but I will bet they haven't walked a mile in his shoes. I had a great job. Lost it due to downsizing and my ex dumped me about a month later saying I was always broke. Even tho I worked there for 18 years. People have to realize that america is changing and we have to change with the times. However, from what you said this guy sounds like a freeloader. Don't put up with that.
Author alexknight Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 he ended up getting a job and still not contributing so he had to go. now he is working... so that's a good sign.. but I find no excuse to come over to "eat" he sure can afford beer and cigarettes though...
tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 U have honestly answered so much about this urself. In ur original post. When people show us who they are , believe it. He is using you, bottom line. There are millions of MEN in this world , not BOYS. My advice would be to be alone for awhile until you can realize ur worth more. And set ur expectations higher next time, because u realize you are worth more than this loser. Stop focusing on what he lacks , and what u dont want in a man. And start focusing on what U DO want in a man, and u will get it. Its a self fulfilled prophecy, if we say we dont want certain things in a person , we end up with it. If we say we want certain things in a person, we find it ... I promise. But u have to be ready for that ( with urself) . And trust ur gut feeling.. The corner? Ya , okay...
tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 So what he is working, he is a user. He will never Man Up . EVER . He would have already
leoc1973 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 oh definitely, cigarettes and beer and eating you out of house and home? Yeah he has to go!!
NopeNah Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 oh definitely, cigarettes and beer and eating you out of house and home? Yeah he has to go!! Maybe if she had a stock pile of beer to everything would be better?
Author alexknight Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 thank you all for replying.. i do need to trust my gut on this and just be alone for a while..
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