Eternal Sunshine Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I don't stop myself from looking. There is no point. I have proven to myself in the past that I CAN heal while doing cyber-stalking. I just naturally feel the need to look less and less as I am moving on. And also stuff on there impacts me less. It actually keeps my thoughts/fantasies in check as there is hard-core evidence that they have moved on. I have unfreinded my ex and all his family and close friends immediately. I have messaged his family and friends to tell them that it's not personal, I had to delete them because I need to move on. They were nice about it. However, my ex has a public profile and I would always look. I just tell myself "It's OK, look as much as you want. Look 100 times a day if you need to". Just by allowing yourself to do it, it loses its appeal. It's all just part of the process. Relax and accept it.
syke Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Facebook in general I find to now be a nuisance in life. It brings me no pleasure, just stress and this ugly feeling of being nosey. In time for spring, and to help move on... I deleted all friends off Facebook, including my ex, then proceeded to deactivate it. Advice I read on the first page of this thread. It made sense to me, and I proceeded. Time will tell if I'll miss Facebook, I highly doubt it though. =) If I truly want to move on I need to start with the menial.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 HA - am I the only one who actually genuinely likes Facebook?
rickys Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Only one suggestion for you. Try to stay away from Facebook as much as possible...
mississippimom Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Step 1: unplug computer. Step 2: take computer outside. Step 3: find a baseball bat or other heavy object with leverage. Step 4: procede to relentlessly smash computer into millions of tiny bits and peices. Step 5: sweep up the carnage and place in trash can or container. Step 6: pour lighter fluid on trash can/container and set ablaze. not sure if this would solve your problem but it sure as hell would be entertaining. LOL I liked that!
Author xztjohn Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 I decided to stop looking yesterday kept a calendar date lol. Whenever I decide to look, I just say to myself no, its not worth it and try to do something else. Its getting better. We should just all add each other on facebook!!!! lol
ridinbikes247 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I was married for almost 5 years, and together for almost 7... I left my wife exactly 5 weeks ago because the way she was acting for the past few months. Disrespectful, and no communication. Her friends became top priority, and I became a roommate. She said she wasnt going to change so I left From the night I left, I blocked her and her family. That way I will never see her post, or her family's post. What happend was her friends would then post about going out with my wife, so I had to block all her her friends as well. The funny thing is, All my friend's stalk there EX's and insist I stalk mine. I have not seen or heard about ANYTHING my ex wife has done in 5 weeks now. It has helped me heal very quick. I havent even drove by the house etc. just to see who is there. Some say I am scared to see the truth and running from the pain, But I think maybe I really dont care about her from the way she has treated me the last few months, and I could careless what she is doing
Author xztjohn Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 seems like your break up reasoning wasnt really bad. people break up for way worse of a reason. have you find someone else yet? icommend you for bein so strong
tornangel Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 So I know maybe not a big deal , but I started to click on my exs fb today and I didnt. Yay for me..
ridinbikes247 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 xtz - It was bad for me. We have a 4 year old son and I loved and still love her so much. I can not go a day without calling her to tell her I love and miss her. I do not, and will not go back to her though. Blocking her and her family/friends have really helped me. I hate it when my friends come around and say "did you see the photos from the club with them guys she posted". Even when I am out, my friends insist we drive by her house just to see who is there. but I never do. I just need to stop calling her everyday now and I should be good to go. Torn angel - is that your picture ? you have a killer smile
ridinbikes247 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 xzt - sorry for saying xtz , lol - - But I find it to be a pretty bad reason. Nothing is worse than coming home from work at 7pm and my wife and kid not be home. I call and text her for an hour or two and she finally calls back and says "Were with my friends, im busy and hang up" . Imagine coming home for valentines day knowing you have a babysitter and your wife not be home, and be with her friends having dinner. and then they go see a movie. It was really hard. roll over to kiss her goodnight or hold her and she tells me to get off her, she is cramped.. EVERYDAY.
Kamila Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Just don't look at your ex's FB page. Ignorance is bliss.
ThatDudeXO Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 HA - am I the only one who actually genuinely likes Facebook? My breakup has made me resent it! Who needs to be bombarded by pictures or sonograms, newborn babies, boring life updates and stupidly loved up couples? Not me atleast!
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