no_love_here Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Hello, I just meet my ex gf after a year break-up (i broke nc my fault) and all she talked about was how much she loves drinking and partying. Is this normal behavior? I never seen this side of her before and it kinda scares me a bit. She also, told me how great her life is now, and how many new people she is meeting. She keep throwing everything in my face, like if I was the one that broke her heart. I wonder if she is really that happy? please help. Thanks.
veggirl Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 People who are truly and honestly happy don't usually throw it in people's faces. They also don't have to SAY they are happy -- it's in the vibe they give, it's on their face, it's reflected in everything they say and do. Your gf may be doing normal experimenting (how old is she?) or she may be using alcohol to mask her feelings. No way for us to know.
Author no_love_here Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Thanks veggirl, I think you are right. She just turn 26 on January, thats the reason for the encounter.I wanted to be nice and take her out for a b-day lunch.
coltsfan1 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I stayed drunk for about 8 months, so she could masking. Or she just enjoys going out with her new friends... if it has been a year since BU, then its none of your business. You should be going out and enjoying life too, what are you doing for you?
leoc1973 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 My ex did the same exact thing word for word. Sounds like another case of gigs! UGH women! LOL move on find someone new and if you were a good guy and she really loved you then she will be back after she gets this out of her system. She told me how amazing her life is and how happy she was. I think her words were something along the lines of I have an amazing life and I am so unbelievably happy! Then I met someone new and she freaked out!
Author no_love_here Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 I know its not my business, I just wish she changer her life in a positive manner. I was with her for 10yrs and she always hated drinking beer and meeting new people. Plus, her dad is a recovering alcoholic so thats my concern. As for me, i'm doing great. I have lost 10lbs an now in really good shape, saved tons of money and travel all over.
nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I'm going through this EXACT same thing right now! Difinately a case of G.I.G.S.!
Author no_love_here Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Update! I went out last night to a restaurant/bar and I saw her. She was so drunk just sitting with 3 guys. It was a very sad scene for me to see.
coltsfan1 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 It is horrible, I know. To think someone was SO special to you but not that special to themselves. The thing is you have to see it as if its not that special to her it should not be that special to you any more. Now it is her life to build or burn, just do your best to try and stay away from her. If you see her DO NOT let her know it bothers you. My heart was broken when my ex left me so I drank and made it worse. Once I came to I started working on my career and growing as a person. I am in the best place of my life, my ex will never see it nor will she reap the rewards from it. But I really our a lot of it to her if she hadn't left I would not have went out and tried to grow.
Author no_love_here Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 Thanks for the advice Coltsfan. I know, that in the end everything will turn out fine if not, then its not the end. (Great quote I read somewhere)
rickys Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 May be after separation, she became addicted to these things. It happens with several people. although it is not good for her health nut now it's her life and you can't inter fare in ti......
leoc1973 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 perfectly put... someone that was so special to us turns into a bar(I don't wanna say whore but)fly. someone that we used to lay with and stare into their eyes and think we are the luckiest guy in the world to have and sex was actual love making turns out to be just another skank for some dickwad at the bar to nail and move to the next. I think that is what bothered/hurt me the most is seeing the other side of someone that was "my angel" Ugh now ya got me wanting to throw up in my mouth a little! LOL stay strong bro.
coltsfan1 Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 No love here- one of my favorite quotes is "life is hard but its even harder if you are stupid." John Wayne said that and it holds true for my ex, myself and everyone else. Just give things time and soon enough what your ex is doing will no longer have any bearing. I hate to say it but it took a solid year for it to sink into my thick skull, but I am the stubburn type. Hopefully you are a bit smarter than me.
KissingItBetter Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Yes please! Enjoy your life! Don't let your past make you a boring person, don't let it bring you down. If you're down, then your past would just celebrating your demise. Kissingitbetter | Facebook
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