HeyFriends Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Hey , I am a new poster and I enjoy reading some of the posts on this website so I figured I would post something and hopefully someone can answer this question. Why do men have women they have children with, attempt to have relationships with other women but continue to have sex with the mother of the child. I really do not understand. They always make it seem they could never date or marry the mother yet seem to always have sex with them on the side. Can anyone explain the logic? Sorry if this has been posted before, I just really would like to know.
Mr. Savage Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Well welcome to Love Shack and let me be the first to give the answers you can expect to get from people on here. The most common answer is gonna be another question. Which is: Why is that woman still giving it up to the guy if she knows he is just using her for sex? 1
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Because they dont want to pay more money for child support. SO they keep the mother thinking the relationship is salvageable, and then see other women on the side. So if you let this happen to you, you might have to reset your boundaries and ditch the guy.
Author HeyFriends Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Well welcome to Love Shack and let me be the first to give the answers you can expect to get from people on here. The most common answer is gonna be another question. Which is: Why is that woman still giving it up to the guy if she knows he is just using her for sex? Thank you! & good question. Are you referring to the baby mother or the "girlfriend" ? I couldnt even tell you why. My friend is in this crazy prediciment and I have always wondered why when you date a man and they have a child with someone else why do they feel the need to slip back to the mother for "sex" when they have someone serious? convience ?
Author HeyFriends Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Because they dont want to pay more money for child support. SO they keep the mother thinking the relationship is salvageable, and then see other women on the side. So if you let this happen to you, you might have to reset your boundaries and ditch the guy. thank you for your reply.. this does make a lot of sense but its so wrong
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 thank you for your reply.. this does make a lot of sense but its so wrong Its terribly wrong, but the mother allows it to happen, so she is 50% at fault for that. People know when their relationships wont work, so she has some other reason for letting this happen.
Leigh 87 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 yikes, a guy walked up to me when I was standing around at a football game; he saw me standing there, and decided to walk over and as for my number. He said he has a girl/f whom he has a young child with, but that what she does not knwo will not hurt him. I politely walked away. Yuck. He was fine looking, too, a DJ apparently.. but, ya know. BIG turn off, guys that do this! Brad pit wouldnt even convince me to leave my integrity behind. mind u, u can bet he will try it on the nest women he fancies.
Leigh 87 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Guys do it because: they have no integrity or strength of character ( namely, they lack traits such as logic, self c ontrol, among other things..) I doubt the baby mama would be FINE with it. He should break up with her, BEFORE screw*ng around with others. if a guy is totally fulfilled and in love with a girl, they will not cheat.... or need other girls.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Guys do it because: they have no integrity or strength of character ( namely, they lack traits such as logic, self c ontrol, among other things..) I doubt the baby mama would be FINE with it. He should break up with her, BEFORE screw*ng around with others. if a guy is totally fulfilled and in love with a girl, they will not cheat.... or need other girls. I dont think it has to do with self control, if he wants to do it. He is doing it because he isnt serious about the baby mama, and is not invested in the relationship. Its perfectly logical, its just a shytty thing to do, but like I said before, women have an intuition about these things, so the baby mama has to suspect its going on, and she stays with him, so shes at fault as well.
plowguy1 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 He was fine looking, too, a DJ apparently.. but, ya know. BIG turn off, guys that do this! Brad pit wouldnt even convince me to leave my integrity behind. mind u, u can bet he will try it on the nest women he fancies. They do it because they can, these are the guys that usually have no problem finding willing partners. Good on you for not being one of them, but you're in the minority, or they wouldn't even try
zengirl Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 I guess. . . Because they want to have sex with her but not marry or date her. I really don't get how this is a logic question. I'd suggest to the woman not trying to "catch" a man with sex (never works), so if he's not into a relationship and that's what you want, accept that and move along.
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