frozensprouts Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 Alright well, my fiancé and I have a 9 month old son together. We use to have a wonderful sex life till she got pregnant, anywhere between 3-4 times a day! Well since our son has born we had sex probably twice. We argue all the time, and now she stays at our place I'm staying at my parents every night, to get some breathing room. I still go over after work but sleep at my parents. She is a great mom, puts our son first. Lately we fight all kinds and I feel even more disconnected since our "separation". I work while she takes care of our son and goes to school. I just want things back to how it was, I know that's a lot of expect but has anyone successfully gotten back? Has your wife's libido got back to normal? Any advice, words of wisdom, comments, will def be appreciated. hello hope you don't mind if I ask a few questions... (a) are you hoping to have sex 3-4 times every day now? I know it's disappointing, but with a small child that may not happen for a while yet. If having sex 3-4 times a day can't happen right now, what do you think would be a reasonable amount? (b) is lack of sex the biggest issue here, or is it a lack of intimacy ( in general) with your wife? do you still feel loved by her? Is lack of sex the problem or do you feel it's more a symptom of a bigger problem? If it is, increasing the amount of sex between you two may provide a temporary fix, but it won't solve the problems. © what do you two fight about besides sex? Are there major things you fight about, or is it just a whole bunch of little issues that get blown out of proportion? why do you think the two of you fight so much? (d) why do you want to have sex with your wife ( aside of the fact that sex is good). I would think that it is because you love her and want to be able to express that love to her. Does she know this? There are women out there who don't realize that part of the reason men like sex with their wives/girlfriends so much is that it allows them a chance to express their love for them in a physical way. All too often, women are given the message that men want sex just because they want it, and the woman's feelings at the time don't matter. I don't think that's fair to men at all, nor is it correct. (e) you really need to get this sorted out. you child is getting older, and you guys need to either work this out or end things. Get counseling, etc. to help you sort out what is going on good luck to you 1
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