dreamingoftigers Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Sorry to hear of the pain you are in. Truly truly your whole future isn't over and there are lots of un-addicted men out there. Be happy that you dumped him now instead of after the wedding or children. Many men (and women) don't understand the pain it causes. Don't expect a ton of support on here.
BrokenMirror Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I once caught my ex watching porn on his phone and when I saw it, I was furious. I couldn't understand what on earth had compelled him to even watch it and more so, why would he lie about NOT watching it when clearly, his history spoke for itself. He later told me that his reason for watching it was to learn and to better himself for me. Of course, he still wasn't forgiven for it because he did lie to me. I didn't do anything to retaliate, but it is one of the things that drove a knife into our relationship and its also the point after which a lot of our fights started. I would advise you to just talk it out with him, maybe come to a deal of some sort. Is he feeling like he doesn't know enough to please you in bed? Or is there not enough intimacy? Whatever it may be, do not retaliate the way you are planning to because guys have this thing about being possessive and it will ruin whatever you have built. Don't let it ruin your relationship.
silvermane187 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Jesus christ, it's just porn. every guy looks at it. It's not a "problem". You're the problem for making him feel bad for looking at it. Damn uptight americans.
CarrieT Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Damn uptight americans. It is not just Americans - why make that assumption? I worked the porn industry (hosted porn on servers) and learned that EVERY culture has issues with porn.
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