IncredibleHulk Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 (edited) Devastated, I broke up after my childhood best friend informed me about seeing her with another guy. She would keep denying it, saying it's a lie but I believed my friend. 3 months later I find out he lied and was jealous of me because he never had a gf nor date. My now ex gf wants nothing to do with me. What should I do? People if your very best friend you trusted all your life did this to you, what would you do? I feel like punching the hell out of him. Now I lost the love of my life because of him. She won't take any of my apologizes and not to ever contact her again. But I'm really sorry. I just didn't think he was capable of going that far (didn't think he had a reason to lie). If it were others or a stranger telling me this I wouldn't have believed it but he was like my family to me. Edited March 8, 2012 by IncredibleHulk
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Well hes obviously not family, and I hope you ditched him as a friend. You cant get your ex gf back, because now you proved to her that you would never believe her. She will always think that you will be suspicious of her, even though you arent. It was foolish of you to believe him without some kind of proof anyway. So just move on to a new gf and next time you make a best friend, try to know them a lil better so that this doesnt happen again.
Author IncredibleHulk Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 It was foolish of you to believe him without some kind of proof anyway. So just move on to a new gf and next time you make a best friend, try to know them a lil better so that this doesnt happen again.Well I asked him ''Bro are you sure you saw her with another guy'' and he said yes, then told me all the details (didn't think he would even lied about that too). I have ditched him and as of now we're no longer speaking to each other. I could have gone for proof but with him it was like my siblings or parents informing me about it. When it's someone you consider a family, it's hard to even think they would backstabbed you esp. when you've known them for many years.
RRM Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Wow, your (ex) friend is awful. I wish I had some good advice, but all I can offer is my sympathy. I probably would have done the same thing you did.
Author IncredibleHulk Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Wow, your (ex) friend is awful. I wish I had some good advice, but all I can offer is my sympathy. I probably would have done the same thing you did.A real POS, scumbag if you ask me. If he was in a relationship, I would be happy for him instead of ruining it. Well he got what he wanted: a break-up + her family now hating me. 1
Black Jack Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Break it off and start over again. Sorry for your loss.
chelsea2011 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Thats awful. That happened to me with my most recent relationship and I never quite got over it. He choose to believe others, put me through absolute h*ll and never EVER came to me directly for an explanation. I would have told him the truth as I had no reason to lie at all. I think that incident prevented me from completely opening up to him, among other reasons. We are done now and I don't see myself ever going back. I just can't because there are way too many unresolved issues with us and he will never find the courage to just sit down and talk to me. He's too chicken to lay it all out on the table with me face to face. I didn't want to live with that "elephant in the room" anymore, so I walked.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Well I asked him ''Bro are you sure you saw her with another guy'' and he said yes, then told me all the details (didn't think he would even lied about that too). I have ditched him and as of now we're no longer speaking to each other. I could have gone for proof but with him it was like my siblings or parents informing me about it. When it's someone you consider a family, it's hard to even think they would backstabbed you esp. when you've known them for many years. Believe me, I understand you didnt even think to question the guy that was supposed to be the closest to you, Im just saying learn from this. Know that you can only trust certain people, and something like this you need proof. Even if its asking more details. "Did you see her with the guy? No? Who told you they saw her?" You start to ask more questions and the story will fall apart if he cant keep the lie going. Just remember that for the future.
imagine Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I would write to her and her family. Do not expect a positive result but allow your letter to be a character reference. If necessary, print the apology in a news paper.
Sugarkane Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I can relate. People are like sheep and want to go with the easiest option. AKA the herd. Everyone knew I was being cheated on and didn't tell me. And I was the last to know. People don't care until they're being cheated on themselves.
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