I think some women intentionally gave me bad

[TheSingleGuy]

I've been single for five years. To this point, I've been blown off by more women than I can imagine.

 

My best friend lives by the rule "He who cares less wins". His baby's momma moved out at the same time that my wife divorced me, and I followed his advice a lot. I also read a lot of stuff in the seduction community that I am now thinking is rotten advice.

 

Basically, the way things have gone down for the last five years, is, I meet a girl, we hit it off and I get her number. Then, I'd be very leery about showing too much interest for fear of being too needy or clingy or desperate.

 

Anyway, a girl I really liked, back in '08, she did try to tell me that I didn't make enough investment. I refused to listen. I think she easily picked up on that. Anyway, later, right before she totally blew me off, she told me about this guy she once gave her number to, he never called her, and she was going crazy. This girl totally painted the picture that women really sit by their phones waiting for that one guy to call. I assumed from this that a guy who waits a long time to call gets extra attraction points.

 

Another girl later that same year, met her on a Friday night. Next morning, I was still drunk, and sent her a really strange text at 9:00am that said "I would hold you very tight and give you lots of affection". I know, that was stupid, but I did it. A few months later, she criticized my "game" and told me that I looked desperate because of that. She said, and I still remember this word for word "Because you are so hot, you should definitely wait at least 3 days before you call a girl. Maybe a week. That would drive me crazy."

 

Another girl I ended up with, she told me a story about how she and her male friend went out one night, he met someone, and she advised him to wait three days before calling her.

 

I ended sleeping with all of these women, but do you think they were intentionally sabotaging me? Everything I've read here on Loveshack seems to indicate that waiting a long time to call a girl is read by them as arrogant game playing behavior. Playing hard to get is a turn off.

 

Thanks for anyone taking the time to read all this and comment.

[FitChick]

If you only want to date women with low self-esteem, then wait for days or weeks or months. That will validate their belief that they don't deserve anyone or anything and they will be crazy about you. Emphasis on the word "crazy."