redrose123 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 My ex and I broke up a little over 2 weeks ago. I deleted my Facebook a few days after and up until today he had still not Changed his to single and he still had his Profile picture as us together. Now he has deleted his Facebook. Do you think this means he is hurting also? We haven't talked since last Saturday..
light_vader Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 He's probably hurting as well. But asides that, what do you care now... and you're eStalking? Given your little mischief there, you're statistically prone to continue to do so (prove math wrong!!!!), but truth be told, if you're blessed with not having to see him on a daily basis or come across him at all, just keep on healing and focus your mind outside the vicious, down-to-hell cycle of "I wonder what he's up to?", "I wonder if he still thinks of me?", "I wonder if he got another woman?"... and so on... You have been warned. I wish you the best and hopefully in some months down the road you'll be able to smile again and find new love in your life, after finding your own self again (or for the first time).
Philosoraptor Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Why does it matter what he is feeling? What you need to do for now is take care of yourself and not dwell on things. Stop checking up on him in any way as it will only bring you pain.
Author redrose123 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 I guess I just want to be reassured that I actually meant Something to him. But I know it doesnt matter now and I'm doing better at focusing on myself. Thanks all! 1
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 God, I hate this Facebook thing. I really do. It just causes nothing but torment for people breaking up and it needs to be avoided like the plague! I deleted my ex from it the day she said it was over. It just seemed logical. I haven't so much as looked at her page in the 23 months we've been separated. I went NC an haven't broken it. I personally wouldn't give her the satisfaction of being validated in any belief she might have that I'm "eStalking" her or whatever, furthermore I'd be disappointed in myself because I'd be hanging on to someone who doesn't want to be with me. Let them do whatever the f*ck they want and move on. You'll feel much better in time.
Kamila Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Imagine a world without Facebook. Imagine a world without phones. You have to break-up in person. You part ways and never see each other again. If you truely want to see the person again, you'll stop by their house. If you think the break-up is for the best, you can't contact them again. Well, you could send them letters... Nowadays with FB you are still in contact with your ex and you can't move on because you're still in contact, even if you're not interacting with each other. You keep tabs on each other lives. You deleted your FB account, he deleted his. Will you keep tabs on whether he reopened his account ? This is not healthy. You need to move on. Of course he's hurting. I believe everyone suffers from a break-up of a meaningful long-term relationship.
g450 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Kamila, I totally agree with you. My life was so much easier before I got a cell phone and a facebook account. Only realson I still have FB is to keep tabs of my Son's life and some family members. But even with only 40 friends I still see drama on that thing every day. Makes me wonder if I should just shut mine down. For me Facebook starte off as Familybook, then turned cheaterbook and now dramabook. It still has its uses though. Most of my friends and family are happily drama free for the most part.
Nancy B Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Facebook is evil when it comes to relationship break ups. You will not find any information that will comfort you on his page. Just memories that will do you no good. I know avoidance is easier said than done. Good luck.
ThatDudeXO Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 My ex just got her 2 best friends to delete me off facebook, shall I just ask her to delete all my friends from her page? Is it wise to break 18 days NC for that?
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