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I have to train this girl I met online on how to converse with me while unemployed

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LexiB Established Member

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Well I just told her not to ask me anymore in a nice pleasant way. Now if she forgets and asked me again her number will be blocked

 

What did you say?

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PhillyDude Established Member

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What did you say?

 

Just explained that it's not good to ask that question because I could have just gotten rejected for a job I really wanted and I will start thinking about it again. So she understood and won't ask me again.

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Wholy crap. I mean I'm job searching too but I'm not about to jump down some rando girls throat about her asking how its going. Just talk about how its going. Badly, goodly, I don't know. You got far enough in the interview process to get rejection letters, that's pretty good. I personally apply for like 2-20 jobs each day, get rejected probably 95% of the time, and don't spazz out on everyone that asks the question. That's just me.

 

I decided to to tell anyone about anymore interviews and just keep it to myself and have a private fight with unemployment. The next thing I say about anything related to employment is..."I start work on ....."

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Judging by all your threads, you are almost certainly the most difficult person to talk to on the face of this green Earth. Kudos to that, I guess.

 

Actually, you just have to understand that everyone is unforgivably stupid except Phillydude. You are, too. We all are. It isn't personal. It's just how it is.

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johan Established Member

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Wholy crap. I mean I'm job searching too but I'm not about to jump down some rando girls throat about her asking how its going. Just talk about how its going. Badly, goodly, I don't know. You got far enough in the interview process to get rejection letters, that's pretty good. I personally apply for like 2-20 jobs each day, get rejected probably 95% of the time, and don't spazz out on everyone that asks the question. That's just me.

 

Yes, but you can do that, because you dwell in the muck with the rest of us. If you were great like Phillydude, then it woud be different. You aren't required to be nice or understanding or patient when you're great.

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She probably blocked your number ...

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PhillyDude Established Member

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She probably blocked your number ...

 

I'm the blocker not the BLOCKEE

betterdeal Established Member

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I'm re-reading A Confederacy of Dunces.

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denise_xo Established Member

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Your going to "train" her? Is this a dog that you're chatting to online? :confused:

betterdeal Established Member

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I'd rather not talk about it.

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Tell her that your job search of getting her in your bed for some sex, is going well.

setsenia Established Member

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We talked last night briefly and then I sent her text this morning saying to have a nice day. Then I get a text that said

 

"How the job search going?

 

Now first I don't know if she is monitoring my job progress so she can see if I'm serious about working or really concerned. Either way it's a question I hate from family or friends and since we don't know each other that well she doesn't know that question gets under my skin. So I will have to let her know in a NICE PLEASANT WAY not to ever ever ask me that question again. And it's because I could have just received a rejection letter and that question will make me think of that. So it's best if she never ever asked that again.

 

BTW: Why do people ask that dumb question anyway?

 

I actually know what you mean! You're not alone. The last several years the job situation has been rough for my husband and I. It actually bothered us a lot when people continuously asked that very same question. Most people didn't mean anything by it, but it was a difficult subject we didn't want to be reminded about when trying to relax with family and friends to get our minds off the subject. Especially when we weren't having a lot of luck. However, certain people would ask that very question nearly every week we saw them. My dad would bring it up in almost a condescending manner. He may as well have said "Did he get a job yet?" If I saw someone on a frequent basis and knew they were unemployed, I would let them volunteer that news if they had any to share. Otherwise I assume no new job has come up.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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I actually know what you mean! You're not alone. The last several years the job situation has been rough for my husband and I. It actually bothered us a lot when people continuously asked that very same question. Most people didn't mean anything by it, but it was a difficult subject we didn't want to be reminded about when trying to relax with family and friends to get our minds off the subject. Especially when we weren't having a lot of luck. However, certain people would ask that very question nearly every week we saw them. My dad would bring it up in almost a condescending manner. He may as well have said "Did he get a job yet?" If I saw someone on a frequent basis and knew they were unemployed, I would let them volunteer that news if they had any to share. Otherwise I assume no new job has come up.

 

 

And that's why I cut a girl off 3 years ago because she kept asking all the time and it was getting on my nerves. People need to be normal enough to know that you don't have to start every conversation with a unemployed person with.."How's the job search going?"

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Exactly. That's what my dad was doing to my husband. It got irritating when he had to ask every single week. Unless the person decides to give you the exciting news, most likely no job has come up. I think there's a difference between asking someone after you haven't seen them in quite some time for casual conversation versus asking every time you talk to them on a regular basis.

 

Sounds like she's adamant for financial security. If she can't find anything else to talk about besides the job situation, I would wonder if my lack of a good paying job is a deal-breaker to her.

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reallyhotguy Established Member

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"Pretty good. How are things going with you?"

 

It's only an issue if you allow it to be one.

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She probably meant well by it. I let slip that I was looking for another job to a GF who hated what I was doing at the time, and she would ask me daily, more than once, to the point of annoyance, so I see the other side too.

 

Light deflection is good advice. Try "thinking about slinging crack rocks down on the corner, no insurance or other benefits but the company covers all training expenses, would that be a problem for you? some people are really snobby about drug dealing. Hey times are tough!"

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I won't make a dating situation, she will be in friend mode until I start working again. But it's hard though because I still have UGLY NEEDS lol

 

Really? Ever hear of masterbation? That's what unemployed people do.

 

In any case you are in the wrong forum. Maybe there's a unemployed playerz dot come out there that you can post on.

 

Judging from the attitude you project in your other postings, I would say you would have a hard time dating even if you did have a job.

 

Good luck with that.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Really? Ever hear of masterbation? That's what unemployed people do.

 

In any case you are in the wrong forum. Maybe there's a unemployed playerz dot come out there that you can post on.

 

Judging from the attitude you project in your other postings, I would say you would have a hard time dating even if you did have a job.

 

Good luck with that.

 

Masturbation is too easy, I like CREATIVE NUTS!!

Emilia Established Member

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I'm the blocker not the BLOCKEE

 

That's what you think

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PhillyDude Established Member

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That's what you think

 

I would block you too if you didn't act right lol

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And that's why I cut a girl off 3 years ago because she kept asking all the time and it was getting on my nerves. People need to be normal enough to know that you don't have to start every conversation with a unemployed person with.."How's the job search going?"

 

Sounds like you have a history of unemployment doesn't it? How do you go through so many jobs? I'm sure it has nothing to do with your attitude.

 

When most people get as defensive as you do, they are hiding something. Whether it be the original reason WHY you're looking for a new job, or guilt from being in denial about being lazy in searching for said job.

 

Wal-Mart is always hiring, so are fast food joints.

 

There's always money to be made.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Sounds like you have a history of unemployment doesn't it? How do you go through so many jobs? I'm sure it has nothing to do with your attitude.

 

When most people get as defensive as you do, they are hiding something. Whether it be the original reason WHY you're looking for a new job, or guilt from being in denial about being lazy in searching for said job.

 

Wal-Mart is always hiring, so are fast food joints.

 

There's always money to be made.

 

I would sing for money in a public park before I apply to a fast food job

Stellar Wench Established Member

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BTW: Why do people ask that dumb question anyway?

Why do dumb people get offended by others being concerned about them?

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Not really, she just has to be smart enough not to

 

1. Complain about her job

2. Ask me how my job search is going

 

Why can't she complain to you about her job ??

That would be part of being her friend..which is what dating is.. right ?

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Why can't she complain to you about her job ??

That would be part of being her friend..which is what dating is.. right ?

 

 

Because why would a unemployed person who can't find any jobs at all to apply to want to hear someone who has a job moan and groan? It makes more sense for them to complain to a employed person

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