Girlfriend has a "sugar daddy"

[Danimal]

So, I'm 25 and she's 23..we've been together for over a year and we were having some problems recently. About a month or so ago I got on her computer and saw that she had left open a website. The site was some kind of "sugar daddy" website. I didn't think much of it until a week or so later when I had reason to believe she was seeing someone. I confronted her about it and she denied that it was a sugar daddy site, but that she had gone out on a date with someone she met online..but it was strictly just a dinner date and that was that. There were a few instances where I suspected she was out with someone but she only admitted to the one time. Well, I wasn't convinced. Since then, she has been open with me about everything and she's gone out a few times with this one guy who paid her $4,000 to hang out a few times a month..which of course, is "our" money. I did some more snooping around and it turns out I was right all along. I found a facebook message between her and her best friend..about a month ago (as I suspected) she did meet with a "sugar daddy" and they had sex and he paid her for the night. I think this happened twice. She actually told me about this night but said that it happened a year and a half ago before we started dating. I asked her to come clean with EVERYTHING and gave her the perfect opportunity and she lied. Now, she thinks everything is happy and back to normal, but now that I know the truth..I think that was the last straw. She mentioned that the guy from "a year and a half ago" has contacted her about meeting again sometime within the next month.

 

Basically, I know what I have to do..but I wanted to get some input/advice/etc. So, what do ya guys think about that one?

[Mme. Chaucer]

I think it's a cool story, brah.

[Lauriebell82]

This reminds me of an episode of Law and Order: SVU.

 

Break up with her, her behavior is not acceptable and just plain disgusting.

[stillafool]

It sounds like she is definitely prostituting on the side for extra money. What are you going to do?

[Black Jack]

I'd dump her.....

[Ursa]

So, morality of sugar daddies or prostitution aside, she's a proven liar, untrustworthy. Why would you NOT dump her?

[FitChick]

It sounds like she is definitely prostituting on the side for extra money. What are you going to do?

 

It sounds like he is her pimp since he says the $4000 is "our money."

[fencesitter]

Sounds like you're dating a prostitute.

 

If you have to snoop to find out what's going on in your GF's life, it's well past time to end it.

[carhill]

Welcome to LS

 

Gotta love new posters and provocative stories.

 

You'll probably find a different perspective from her on what is and is not 'our money', if not now, then later in life when you get a divorce. Good luck

[OneWayTicket]

I don't understand women who can deal on the side. And she's taking money too? She must love to gamble. I like that you didn't say anything to her when she lied to your face. Actually I don't, why don't you dump her

[2sunny]

Look out for STD's!

 

I'd say she must be a good lay - making 4k for a few times a month? Nah, she's probably agreed to a few times everyday for that amount.

 

No trust, no honesty = no nothing... Hope you haven't had recent sex with her.

[Star Gazer]

I think that was the last straw.

 

No, the last straw should have been the FIRST straw when she told you she went on a dinner date with a man from a website while she was in a relationship with you.

 

It's my understanding that sugar daddy websites are golddigger websites, as in, places to find wealthy men to be in a relationship with. Not sites where a woman can literally get paid cash for sex. I realize they're not that much different, but there is a clear difference in my mind.

 

Nevertheless, your girlfriend is cheating on you. She's a prostitute.