tansuri Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Hi, if a guy asks me to be his gf but I doubt his sincerity, are there any tests that i can put him through? And what is the usual dating procedure/steps? Like from friends, should he start holding my hands, shoulders,waist or ask me to be his gf first? And how should he ask me to be his gf? Do guys normally bring you to a posh restaurant, buy flowers and stuff? Thanks
veggirl Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 How well do you know this guy? What an...odd question.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 You dont put him through tests. Tests are juvenile. What you do is watch his words and see if they match his actions. If they dont, you know he isnt being sincere. If you want to be his girlfriend, say yes, and then make sure he ACTS sincere after that. if you already think you cant believe him, then you probably shouldnt be dating him in the first place.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 The most powerful tool you have as a woman is your intuition. Coincidentally that's what you're going to try the hardest to ignore so you can believe the lies and manipulations of men. But you'll know the answer, it just depends on how much you're willing to listen to the reality versus your emotions. If you already feel like he isn't sincere, then that is very very likely the truth. The only thing you're trying to accomplish is some made up test to determine whether you can convince yourself that he is telling you the truth, to somehow prove to yourself that you are wrong when you already know the answer...understand how that works? Don't trust him until you know you can trust him, don't try to read into irrelevant details like what he does for you or where he takes you, any man can do that. Relationships are first built with trust, then you go along the pace that YOU feel comfortable with and keep him/other boys in check until you feel that it is comfortable and they are trustworthy. The rest works itself out naturally, just make you take the time you need to and get to know boys better than just jumping into it because of how you "feel", don't give in to the pressure. Stand your ground, ask questions that are important to you and things you want to know.
dasein Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 The best tool is time spent together and how he treats you in different circumstances. There aren't any real shortcuts or tests for trust other than catching someone in an obvious lie.
Author tansuri Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 we are abt 32yrs old. nv been in a relationship. I feel short changed though like taken for granted.
Author tansuri Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 we are abt 32yrs old. nv been in a relationship. I feel short changed though like taken for granted. i thought guys will buy flowers, presents,surprises for girls. He never even bother to chase me...i m there like free for him. Like he is pitying me by giving an old lady a chance at a relationship.
dasein Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 we are abt 32yrs old. nv been in a relationship. I feel short changed though like taken for granted. i thought guys will buy flowers, presents,surprises for girls. He never even bother to chase me...i m there like free for him. Like he is pitying me by giving an old lady a chance at a relationship. Courtship has changed, there are near infinite possibilities of what is regular treatment and what isn't. Women dictated this be the case decades ago, and grudgingly, men have gone along with it over time. Get used to it, and if chivalry and traditional courtship expressions are that important to you, seek out men who still participate in them. Then - "men buy flowers, presents, surprises" for girls. This was because it was assumed that there was something called a "lady" on the other end of the deal, not someone who conducted their sexual and social life exactly like the average man does. That is not a valid assumption any more, maybe even the opposite. Now - If you want a certain kind of treatment in courtship, give similar treatment and be prepared to continue to give it, if you want traditional treatment without being traditional yourself, good luck finding a blind sucker, good news is that there are still -plenty- of suckers out there in the male gender. Bad news is they will bore you to death and you will end up miserable with them.
Jynxx Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 There's the relationship material coefficients. It's R=(P+(Of-Om)+2*F+Df*Dp)/T Where P = average amount of presents per week Of = orgasms the female partner received from the male partner Om = orgasms the male partner received from the female partner F = average numer of times the female receives flowers Df = Dinnerfrequency; average amount of dinners per week T = time in relationship in weeks Dp = Dinnerpricecoefficient; if the average price per person is <20: 0.3 20<Price<50: 0.5 50<Price<100: 0.7 >100: 0.8 R over 5 means good boyfriend material, R under 2 means instadumpworthy.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 There's the relationship material coefficients. It's R=(P+(Of-Om)+2*F+Df*Dp)/T Where P = average amount of presents per week Of = orgasms the female partner received from the male partner Om = orgasms the male partner received from the female partner F = average numer of times the female receives flowers Df = Dinnerfrequency; average amount of dinners per week T = time in relationship in weeks Dp = Dinnerpricecoefficient; if the average price per person is <20: 0.3 20<Price<50: 0.5 50<Price<100: 0.7 >100: 0.8 R over 5 means good boyfriend material, R under 2 means instadumpworthy. LMAO:lmao: Im going to go over this to see if it actually adds up...if it does, it'll be even funnier.
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