Logik Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I'm not sure if anyone will remember me, I haven't posted in a while. Quick back story. Wife left me 2.5 years ago. Excuse was she didn't love me any more. 2 kids. OM pops up almost immediately. I was broken. Took ages to get my head right. Normal story... Anyway, I struggled to come right. Has issues with women. Didn't want to go down that road ever again. I held this view for a while, for over 2 years. I hooked up with a few women here and there, but didn't really want anything serious, so just a bit of dating. I struggled with it because I didn't actually want a relationship again, but thought I had to at least try get back on the horse. Then SHE came around. I sort of knew her from a while back. We hooked up, and my world changed. Now we don't really fit together perfectly. She's 10 years younger than me to begin with. I'm divorced with 2 kids. She's quite a party animal, very popular, lots of friends. I'm more like a lone wolf, reserved. But my word, did she have an effect on me and I had an effect on her! The reason I say murphy's law is the fact that she doesn't want anything serious. Says she really likes me but... commitment issues, getting hurt issues etc. All excuses I suppose. But why her? I dated other women who were a better fit. Women who would've been interested in actually dating me more seriously but I felt nothing there. As soon as I meet someone who I really fall for, then she's not interested in seriously dating me?! Wow. Cruel fate. I sit back and laugh at the same time as being upset. Why? Why her? When I eventually find that someone, which is quite rare, it doesn't seem to be panning out? Is the universe maybe telling me that I'm not ready yet? Is she just here to show me that I can love again, but have to still wait? Maybe, but it still sucks. I'm kinda heart-broken all over again, without anything really starting up, just the fact that it won't. It might though. I see it in her eyes sometimes. The confusion of whether to let go and jump into it or not. I also sit and over-think the situation, trying to control it to the way I want it. But we all know that doesn't work. It just drives one crazy and breeds desperation! Anyway, thought I'd post about it. Maybe it'll help, maybe some advice might strike a chord like when I posted about my divorce. Thanks for reading...
BrettLost Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Logik, WOW. Ur story did strike a strong chord with me. Exact same situation just happened to me. Also my divorce story is the same, 2 kids aswell. I did post about this girl too, but no replies. She popped into my life unexpected, 10 years younger, and the chemistry was amazing, yet nothing came of it.. When we looked in each others eyes, it was like we knew it was real. Was so deep, yet never became physical... I was friendzoned. Scary part is, if she did let go (like u said) it would have been ****ing incedible. Once in a lifetime ****. This is quite amazing this happened to someone else! Like you, my view on the world and girls has changed dramatically since meeting her and gave me confidence that being myself WILL attract the genuine companionship of suitable females. She was there for me the day of my divorce and will never be forgotten.
Author Logik Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Thanks BL. Thing is, we are physical once in a while. It's amazing. I just want more from it than she does. I'm glad I have someone who can relate with me. Only thing is, because I have the physical thing with her, it's a hell of lot more difficult. You might actually have it a bit easier :/ Thanks for the reply.
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