HeartOnSleeve Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 So I've known this guy...let's call him GM (he's not soldier or Guy A), for about 4 years. We used to work around the corner from each other so I would go into his work frequently with friends or family. He would walk by mine and say hi, but we never exchanged numbers and would chat but it never went anywhere. So about a year ago, I gave up my crush and dated the soldier and some others. I've seen him a few times but not so much. So I go out with some friends and who do I see at a new place...GM...and my heart literally skipped a beat...and my crush is back! We both light up when we see eachother and he always gives me the best hugs. hehe So he hosts something at his new job where I saw him and I signed up for this thing. He asks me for my last name but not my girlfriends, then he says "hey do you have my cell" when I took out my phone. He gave me his number. Do guys hand out there number and would he have done it as a flirtly thing or just to literally give me his number if I have any questions? I'm so excited to have his number but have no clue what to do with it. Haha I may see him at this same thing next week, but I know for sure I'm set up to see him in two weeks. Had to share....ughhh he's awesome!
reallyhotguy Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Do guys hand out there number and would he have done it as a flirtly thing or just to literally give me his number if I have any questions? Who cares, call him?
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 I hope you are right Heat of a Lion! Haha. I feel like I won the lottery having his number and I guess need to work up the courage to use it. Maybe I should wait to see him one more time...eeek!
Emilia Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I hope you are right Heat of a Lion! Haha. I feel like I won the lottery having his number and I guess need to work up the courage to use it. Maybe I should wait to see him one more time...eeek! His not taking your number is lame. If he was that interested he would want to have control over contact and would have taken yours. He must know most girls don't call guys first.
make me believe Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 He's just a tease. If he had been truly interested, he would have asked for your contact info so he could take the initiative. If he gives you his contact info, it's more like 'I can take it or leave it.' Yeah, he is NOT that interested. I mean, you knew him for 3 or 4 years and he never made a single move in that time?? You can text him if you want, but my guess is you'll end up doing all of the initiating & chasing.
Imajerk17 Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Text him. Worrying "how interested is he" is silly. Maybe he's not good at making moves--some guys are like that. We guys call women all the time not knowing "how interested is she". 1
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Well the conditions were not exactly ideal for him to get my info and yes we are both pretty goofy and shy around each other. I've also, been told by a few guys that I don't come off as available so maybe he thinks i'm not interested. I mean the guy has met my mom, my dad, and all my best friends over the course of the years. He loves chatting with my mom too. haha So it's not that often that I see him alone. We shall see. I know for sure I'll see him in the next few weeks and maybe he'll be walking by my work a more frequently. A few years ago he would stop in chat and buy me coffee. I'm just excited to run into him again and having a crush on someone is so fun and it's a rush. I'm just sharing my excitement.
Black Jack Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 His not taking your number is lame. If he was that interested he would want to have control over contact and would have taken yours. He must know most girls don't call guys first. It's not lame because he didn't take her number, or make the first move. Every guy in this world doesn't always have to make the first move. OP good luck to you. Just keep it calm and mellow around him. 1
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 I agree Black Jack. I hate that there is the notion if a guy a doesn't initiate or put the first move on then he's just not interested. Sure this could be the case with some guys but I don't think for all of them. Do guys PREFER to make the first move? If a girl makes the first move do you think differently of her? Don't worry I am calm and try not to get to excited around him...even though after reading my post about him you'd think I was crazy when I saw him..haha. When i'm around a guy I really like, I get a little tongue tied so I try and keep it cool
Black Jack Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I agree Black Jack. I hate that there is the notion if a guy a doesn't initiate or put the first move on then he's just not interested. Sure this could be the case with some guys but I don't think for all of them. Do guys PREFER to make the first move? If a girl makes the first move do you think differently of her? Don't worry I am calm and try not to get to excited around him...even though after reading my post about him you'd think I was crazy when I saw him..haha. When i'm around a guy I really like, I get a little tongue tied so I try and keep it cool Hey I understand. I was like that when I met my ex wife. We all get a little nervous.
reallyhotguy Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 He would have made a move long ago if he had the slightest interest. I still say "who cares". All of this speculation is meaningless if what it amounts to is "don't try". She should at least put her foot in the water.
sid3 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Better to indulge in a fantasy online than get shot down in real life. Screw that. Getting shot down everyday in real life would be better than indulging in a fantasy online IMO. Taking chances will prove to be far more rewarding than living within the comfort of a protective bubble. People too often equate rejection with automatically feeling like a jackass, they shouldn't. There is no better way to learn. Few people ever get what they really want without going after it. I think the OP should contact him. Life's short, go get him girl 1
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 She has zero confidence that he's actually interested. Or else, she'd have contacted him already and they'd have made arrangements to see each other. Better to indulge in a fantasy online than get shot down in real life. "She" is here reading this. I don't' think you need to be a jerk on here. I have confidence, but you are right i'm not 100% sure he's interested in ME. I don't "stalk or follow him" either. My city is small and when you find a place you like with great bartenders and food....you go. I haven't actually seen him in a few months and was shocked when I saw him at this new place as was he. There was no real reason for me to get his number either. I didn't ask for it and he didn't HAVE to give it to me. That's why I thought maybe he was a little more interested then usual. He also, could have said, hey I'm slammed and not spent time catching up with me and just going back to work. The other guy he was working with (old college buddy of my crush) also, came up to me and said that he told him all about me and introduced himself. I'm not sure anyone loves rejection and being rejected by someone that you see frequently stinks even more. So yeah it's going to take a little bit of courage for me to just flat out ask. I'm sure he feels like that too. City "industries" are small. You know one person you know them all. Thanks for those that are giving me constructive criticism. I know I'll go for it and give it a shot just need to work up the courage
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