CopingGal Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 When I first got to know my ex...he seems so incredibly wonderful. When he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend, I was so sad. Here was this really, truly wonderful man...the kind of man I had waited all of my life for...the kind of man that could be the most wonderful partner in the world, and SHE got him. After she dumped him for the umpteenth time, he and I started to see each other. The man I thought was so perfect, so wonderful that I thought, gee, this a dream...turned out to be a complete jackass with major dysfunctions. Have you ever seen someone that you thought would be soo completely perfect for you...that you thought was a dreamboat, a wonderful, wonderful person and then dated them, only to find out that they were low, disgusting, very dysfuntional, and just a poor excuse for a human being? 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 When I first got to know my ex...he seems so incredibly wonderful. When he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend, I was so sad. Here was this really, truly wonderful man...the kind of man I had waited all of my life for...the kind of man that could be the most wonderful partner in the world, and SHE got him. After she dumped him for the umpteenth time, he and I started to see each other. The man I thought was so perfect, so wonderful that I thought, gee, this a dream...turned out to be a complete jackass with major dysfunctions. Have you ever seen someone that you thought would be soo completely perfect for you...that you thought was a dreamboat, a wonderful, wonderful person and then dated them, only to find out that they were low, disgusting, very dysfuntional, and just a poor excuse for a human being? Yes, my ex. And he dumped me. He didn't have the decency to come out with it; I had to find out through his ex wife that he was trolling at least 5 dating sites in search of his soulmate. According to my findings, these sites were up at least during a weekend he begged me to spend with him. That weekend he was cold and rejected me in bed; preferred to sleep while I lay next to him in something sexy. I cried myself to sleep that night and I am pretty sure he knew it. Why on earth did he want me to spend a weekend with him--he didn't get any because he turned it down. He was on those sites the whole time and checking his phone while we were out together. When I discovered he was on these sites, I confronted him and he became verbally abusive, said I was spying on him, etc. It was a nightmare. He said "well I want to date! I am lonely and you can't always be here!!" So, it would seem our exes are a lot alike in the tool department, LOL. And now he is with his perfect dream girl he is smitten with.
Author CopingGal Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Try not to be jealous. This scum is a first class bombaclot. He will ruin this relationship too. 1
lovelylashes Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 When I first got to know my ex...he seems so incredibly wonderful. When he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend, I was so sad. Here was this really, truly wonderful man...the kind of man I had waited all of my life for...the kind of man that could be the most wonderful partner in the world, and SHE got him. After she dumped him for the umpteenth time, he and I started to see each other. The man I thought was so perfect, so wonderful that I thought, gee, this a dream...turned out to be a complete jackass with major dysfunctions. Have you ever seen someone that you thought would be soo completely perfect for you...that you thought was a dreamboat, a wonderful, wonderful person and then dated them, only to find out that they were low, disgusting, very dysfuntional, and just a poor excuse for a human being? I was in the same situation a few years ago. Met a really nice,genuine guy. Everything was perfect. I received a text from him saying he was getting back with his ex, this completley shocked me and i was devastated but i realised i couldnt compete with five years of history. One year later he emailed me to say They had broken up. He wanted us to try again. When we met up i realised I didnt want him back after what had happened. He just assumés we could pick up where we left off. Ugh men are all the same.
Author CopingGal Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 I was in the same situation a few years ago. Met a really nice,genuine guy. Everything was perfect. I received a text from him saying he was getting back with his ex, this completley shocked me and i was devastated but i realised i couldnt compete with five years of history. One year later he emailed me to say They had broken up. He wanted us to try again. When we met up i realised I didnt want him back after what had happened. He just assumés we could pick up where we left off. Ugh men are all the same. Your situation sounds different from mine. The man I dated ended up being a compulsive liar with sociopathic tendencies who played tricks on me and used his autistic son to cheat on me. I won't go into more info cause I've said it so many times in these forums. But I am sorry you were hurt.
TaraMaiden Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 "My darling you'll be absolutely fine, providing you remember this: It doesn't matter how old they are, what job they do, what car they drive, what clothes they wear, what house they live in, or how much they earn; they're always 9 years old." Advice to me. from my mother, when I was first old enough to date. god how right she was.... why didn't i listen....? 2
CainJ Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 I could write a book about my ex and our relationship. I'm going to VAGUELY sum it up. The first year was perfect. No problems. Second year? She became cold. Still wanted me in her life, but she started lying to me. She eventually cheated on me, and used the excuse that the 'affair' wasn't a 'real' relationship and that she was only in a 'relationship' with this guy to make her parents happy. Hell, that doesn't even begin to sum it up, but that's 20% of it.
Graceful Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 Ever heard the expression, "Love is blind" ?? If we hadn't lived it, none of us would be here. 1
Author CopingGal Posted March 10, 2012 Author Posted March 10, 2012 I met this guy on the internet some years ago. We never dated. First when we were communicating, I liked him. I was interested in him. But during our first call, he revealed his life to me...hey, at least it was before our first date. After the call, I never went out with him. He told me he was married...that his wife lived on the other side of the state. They live separate lives. He will stay married to her because he does not want to disappoint his mother. They come together at family gatherings and pretend to still be together. Now, his mother was not dying. But, he did not want to disappoint his mom and told me he will stay married to his wife until the day his mother died. He still wanted to get to know me, but I would not be allowed at any family gatherings... I only wish my ex was that honest with me from the beginning. This guy sounded like a total weirdo...but damnit, as least he told me this stuff up front. Still, I decided I no longer wanted to get to know him. He said he understood. He was nice about it.
Kamila Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 When I first got to know my ex...he seems so incredibly wonderful. When he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend, I was so sad. Here was this really, truly wonderful man...the kind of man I had waited all of my life for...the kind of man that could be the most wonderful partner in the world, and SHE got him. After she dumped him for the umpteenth time, he and I started to see each other. The man I thought was so perfect, so wonderful that I thought, gee, this a dream...turned out to be a complete jackass with major dysfunctions. Have you ever seen someone that you thought would be soo completely perfect for you...that you thought was a dreamboat, a wonderful, wonderful person and then dated them, only to find out that they were low, disgusting, very dysfuntional, and just a poor excuse for a human being? Oh yeah, the dream versus the cold reality. Lived it ! Sometimes, in the early year of our relationship, I was saying to myself: 'Is this real, is he really that handsome/wonderful/kind man ?' Then you fall in love, and the whole world is smiling. Until that day, when you're so-called perfect boyfriend reveals his true colours. Then you're trying to look for the exit door ... 1
Author CopingGal Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 I could write a book about my ex and our relationship. I'm going to VAGUELY sum it up. The first year was perfect. No problems. Second year? She became cold. Still wanted me in her life, but she started lying to me. She eventually cheated on me, and used the excuse that the 'affair' wasn't a 'real' relationship and that she was only in a 'relationship' with this guy to make her parents happy. Hell, that doesn't even begin to sum it up, but that's 20% of it. Wow, she reminds me of my ex...such lame and ridiculous excuses.
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