Numb79 Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I am sor tired of the roller coaster. At one minute I feel very confident and feel like I can conquer everything! Then the next minute, it just comes back..... This crap sucks!!! People say it gets easier with time.... screw time! It needs to happen now!! 1
loveydove Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I feel the same way! it's like trying to run in mud up to your waist! haha
LSgirl Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 me too! I felt like I was getting better these past 7 days of NC (started NC day of BU) but today at Day 8, I'm really REALLY missing him! I just want to get over this....
Author Numb79 Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 I'm at 5 weeks of NC and I still feel this way! But I do admit that it is getting easier. I just hate the fact that I can't control the situation.
CaliBabe Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 IT DOES GET BETTER! What I find helps me, is keeping super busy. I try my hardest to keep a very tight schedule. When I'm not busy, I try to pamper myself and do things for me. It can be as small as reading a book and enjoying some relaxing quiet time. It sucks balls now, but IT WILL GET BETTER.
jus d'orange Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 One thing that has really helped me overcome the roller coaster is being able to spend time alone in a way that I enjoy. It's good to get out and keep busy at first, but at 5 weeks, you need to be able to spend time alone happily, too. I just read things I enjoy, listen to music I enjoy, watch movies, etc. I love hanging out with me!
sweetheart5381 Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Ya, am at the 5 week mark too. I have spent time with my kids (5, 14 and 15) bowling, hanging out, talking, etc. I have spent time talking to my friends that I didnt have time for when he and I were together. I have spent time just dancing in the kitchen, singing to the radio, just feeling good whenever I can. I see my ex everyday at work. It still hurts everyday, but everyday its a little less. He looks for my attention and I dont feed it anymore. I have a great life, with him or without him. He ditched me for greener grass... my grass was always green It's a roller coaster to be sure... but it's worth the ride. 1
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 What you're feeling is natural. I didn't get to the fluctuating confidence vs despair until around the 5 month mark- so you're healing quicker than I did after my last break up. I am at the 9 month mark now and time has healed a lot of wounds. That feeling of knowing you have no control over the situation sucks- but that too will pass. Unfortunately, healing is a process. You WILL look back one day and forget what this person meant to you, I can promise you that from experience.
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