HeartBreak11 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Ladies and Gents, I am about a year out of a 3 year relationship, I am finally ready to date with a clear head. Good looking guy, tall, good job, good shape straight teeth, funny etc. I sound good on paper but so much more to dating. I must admit, I forget about what comes with dating, its not just tough meeting someone but its tough because you actually put yourself in a situation to be assessed by someone else, when it doesn't have the results you want, I must admit, It will test anyone's ego. I have been out with two beautiful women, when I say beautiful, I would say by most standards, any man would be attracted to these women. Anyway, met this beautiful gal through online dating, we hit it off nice, spent 4 hours together talking, 2 hours into the date, we agreed to a second date. Kissed at the end of the date, she reached out through the week to say Hi (Text), we talked on the phone for about 45 min 2-3 days after the date, next two days, contact through text. Following Weekend approaches, I knew she was busy with work and family (this was established on first date, I knew I would have to wait two weekends to see her), I left it alone for two days. Work week begins, No reply to a text I sent, YIkes, its been two weeks, I have left it alone. I am sure there isn't any great advice, I know what I would tell someone, you want your answer, reach out again, I never did. Shame on me, dating is funny. I have no doubt she was more than interested, I am learning that is half the battle. So many other things have to fall into place. I guess you really don't know whats going on in someone's life. Don't take it to heart and don't have a defeatist attitude if a couple don't dates don't work out. Any words of wisdom besides the obvious?
theories_galore Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Man, it sounds a lot like my situation. I feel your disappointment. Dating is definately a different experience. I guess the only way to feel better is to have the philosophy "what is meant to be, will be". Someone else will come along and sweep you off your feet, just have to be patient.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 No matter how busy they are, always do a followup. Try to make a definite plan for a second date then you wait to see if they flake. I had this happen to me with a guy I met back in Nov. I kept making dates and he kept flaking. After the third time I dropped him. Now you shouldn't operate like me. If they flake on a a second date without a followup date, they're just not interested. Do not put the ball in their cort instead wish them good luck and find someone else more compatible.
USMCHokie Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Shame on me, dating is funny. I have no doubt she was more than interested, I am learning that is half the battle. So many other things have to fall into place. I honestly have to disagree with you here...dating should really be quite simple...and in my experience, it always has been...as long as you are compatible and there's mutual interest, there shouldn't be any funniness or things that have to "fall into place"...sh*t just happens naturally and organically...if there are issues that make you wonder, then more likely than not, one or both of you aren't really interested...or one or both of you have some things to work out on your own...or one or both of you are not suitable for dating (e.g., too busy, psychotic, etc.)... Or maybe I've just been extremely lucky...?
FitChick Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 I honestly have to disagree with you here...dating should really be quite simple...and in my experience, it always has been...as long as you are compatible and there's mutual interest, there shouldn't be any funniness or things that have to "fall into place"...sh*t just happens naturally and organically...if there are issues that make you wonder, then more likely than not, one or both of you aren't really interested...or one or both of you have some things to work out on your own...or one or both of you are not suitable for dating (e.g., too busy, psychotic, etc.)... I agree. People who've never had a good relationship don't know this.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Did you know whether or not she was multi dating? Sometimes they dont tell you....
Author HeartBreak11 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Did you know whether or not she was multi dating? Sometimes they dont tell you.... That I do not know, Why would it matter? I assume she was, we went on one date.
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