theories_galore Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Met this girl, we hit it off great. Talked for pretty much all the time for the last few weeks. We enjoy hanging out with each other and things were looking very good. Maybe a little TOO good... Anyways, after so much fun and anticipation, she tells me that she was hoping she wasn't leading me on and she thinks I'm a great guy. She goes on to say that she just got out of a really long term relationship (which I sort of knew about, but not to what extent) late in the summer/early autumn last year. She also says she's not ready for something serious right now. I get it, it's no problem. But, I really like this girl, so I just left the door open in case she changes her mind (just told her we'd slow it down and take it from there). I'm planning on not texting her or anything for the next little while, unless she comes to me first. I sit here with that ugly feeling, you know, like I'm really bummed out. No idea why! I mean, it's only been a few weeks, but it's been a really good few weeks. For it to go from full speed ahead, to a skidding stop, it's really got me down. Does this sound like something that might've freaked her out and might it be possible to pick up where we left off? Anyone else have this issue?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 If you made out with her while hanging out all this time, then you did something to turn her off, or she met someone she thought was a better fit for her. Or she tried to use you to forget about her ex, and she realized it didnt work. Or she sees that you are getting attached to her too quickly, and she doesnt like you THAT much. But she lied about not wanting to date, she will be dating someone new. If she was with you, then she is looking for a relationship, just not with you.
Author theories_galore Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Good points. But, never made out with her, played it slow in that regard. The other options are viable. I probably won't know. But, she did agree to slow it down (b/c even she was keeping up the pace of this 'relationship'). Maybe she'll figure it out and want to give it another shot? Who knows. They're all what-ifs. Just don't understand why women can't be open and honest. At least then I'd know for sure
mickleb Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Just don't understand why women can't be open and honest. At least then I'd know for sure Change women to people in this sentence, then I'll hear you. 1
make me believe Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 So you guys hung out for weeks and never had any physical intimacy? You were friendzoned from the beginning. And now she's sensed you getting attached and is backing off and telling you in a round-about way that it's never going to happen. Sorry.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 So you guys hung out for weeks and never had any physical intimacy? You were friendzoned from the beginning. And now she's sensed you getting attached and is backing off and telling you in a round-about way that it's never going to happen. Sorry. Yeah, you never had a chance with her. She hung out with you for easy safe company, to help her get over her breakup. You were used for a self esteem boost, she knew that you would always follow her like a puppy, so she kept hanging around you for the boost. Next time you go on dates, try to make out with a lil at the end of the first or second date. Also, if a woman tells you she just go out of a relationship, run for the hills.
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