inicoleist Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 I did something stupid and I am really hating myself for this. I was casually seeing this guy who is 14 years older than me for a little over a couple years and I had really strong feelings for him. I held it in though but he could tell I liked him. He didnt treat me nice at times, but we weren't together so he didn't owe me anything and i just shrugged it off and still saw him cause I liked him so much. I tried to end it a few times when he made me upset, but I would get over it fast and he would keep bugging me so i gave in each time. (stupid i know). I was just tired of feeling jealous because I know he had sex with other girls and I wanted a relationship. So I finally told him how I felt and that I wanted more. He didn't so I was like ok i have to move on now. Anyways this was a couple months ago and it's been hard. He was texting me 3 weeks ago but i refused to see him. I was doing a little better until my friend brought his name up because she started texting him (they only met one time with me there). Anyways I saw the texts and he was trying to get with her and talking **** about me. I got upset and my friend proceeded to text him so she may end up with him i am not sure even though she says she won't. I am not sure what to do now because it seems I will never get over him. I blocked him on facebook because I would constantly look at his profile and I just want to dissapear from him completely. Did i do the right thing? But now I am kind of regretting it because I feel like I want to get over him so bad but at the same time I just cannot let go! How do I get myself together? It feels like I will never get over him. it' s not just him i have to get over..i have to somehow get over me being so stupid. I feel like i'm crazy because i;m in love with a guy who couldn't care less about me!
irin Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Did i do the right thing? yes you did, my best advise is to block him out youre life, and move try seeing new guys you so much younger probably have life ahead of you. dont worry about him, and ignore your friend, shes obviously stupid to go near someone even knowing that they are clearly desperate for sex with anyone. i hope you used protection. just concentrate on other activities keep your self busy. dont rethink your decision. no regrets. move onto better things! look ahead to the future!
theories_galore Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 I agre with irin. You have done the right thing! I know it's tough to get over it, and there's no doubt you're having issues with it. But, blocking him off facebook and everything else is a step in the right direction. Try deleting his phone number too. Anything associated with him, get rid of it! Also, try writing an email outlining how you feel and don't be afraid to express yourself in any way. But, DO NOT SEND IT! Just save it to your drafts and delete it soon after. That might help. Admit to yourself that you're addicted to him and that what you're experiencing is just withdrawl. As the days go by, you'll be one day closer to complete relief. Life has many surprises in store and you might meet your soul mate. Then, this idiot will be a forgotten past. Good luck to you
silvermercy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Yes, you did the RIGHT thing and that's exactly why it's difficult. What you're experiencing now is withdrawal symptoms indeed. (If I were you, I'd also reconsider my friendship with your own friend if she goes ahead with it. She's the one acting "stupid" now. Why would you want to associate with someone like her? Find some new friends if you can, who can be more supportive in trying to making you see sense earlier).
Author inicoleist Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 The thing is that friend would always ask why i was seeing him because she would say how he is old and a loser. She says she would NEVER meet up with him or have sex with him. I don;t get why she is texting him though if she has no interest what so ever. I know he is really persistent and everything but like she could just ignore.. At one point she said she just wanted to "use him" for the hotel he invited her to pre drink at.
silvermercy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 The thing is that friend would always ask why i was seeing him because she would say how he is old and a loser. She says she would NEVER meet up with him or have sex with him. I don;t get why she is texting him though if she has no interest what so ever. I know he is really persistent and everything but like she could just ignore.. At one point she said she just wanted to "use him" for the hotel he invited her to pre drink at. She thinks the grass is greener. And now she has clearance to proceed. Who knows... Maybe she was jealous? Again, from what you're saying here, I wouldn't want a friend like her. She seems two-faced and not so emotionally stable if she still thinks she has a chance with him.
Author inicoleist Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 you never know he may end up falling in love with her and then i don't know how the hell i would handle that :S even if he settles down with another girl i still don't think i will be able to handle it because i will keep thinking that i wasn't good enough for him. I think my friend secretly enjoyed that he was trash talking me he told her that he likes me and that i am a nice girl but that i get 'weird sometimes' . it probably made her feel good.
silvermercy Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 you never know he may end up falling in love with her and then i don't know how the hell i would handle that :S even if he settles down with another girl i still don't think i will be able to handle it because i will keep thinking that i wasn't good enough for him. I think my friend secretly enjoyed that he was trash talking me he told her that he likes me and that i am a nice girl but that i get 'weird sometimes' . it probably made her feel good. Yes, and that should make it even more obvious what a smooth talker/ big fat liar he is. Think of that when you start questioning why you left him. Listen to your brain, it always protects your heart. And a "friend" taking pleasure in his "crap" talk" about you!? That's not a friend! Lose them both and never look back! They're just obstacles in your future happiness!!
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