xztjohn Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 (edited) my ex new bf seems to to be this really rich dude that puts her on a pedestal. he takes her out to fancy dinners, six flags, a hotel, and they r goong to beyond wonderland concert. basically what happened was i dumped her wanted her back and the guy conviced her to break with me and he moved in took advantage of the situation, they are roommates btw. she said before that shes doesnt find him attractive as me but he treats her real nice. i think that guy is pretty ugly with alot of acne to be honest. when we were dating she said he is kindacreepy. i asked her if she loves him as much as she did with me she said no not yet. she still contacts me randomly from time to time but i just ignore like "i hope you are happy" " i hope you are doing well" and get unknown calls. i know i shouldnt care but i just want your guys opinion on their relationship. a particular time of the break up she wantedto get back with me but i said no. they are now official and its been about 5 months now. with the last two months of tem being official, yet she still contacts me from time to time. it was a definite rebound at first but i dont know now. you think what they have is real? just curious Edited March 6, 2012 by xztjohn
smokey bear Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 I think one day she will wake up and her rose tinted glasses will come off and she will see the kinda creepy acne dude again.
rach24680 Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Sounds like hes always liked her, saw his oportunity and now - because you refused her asking for you to get back together - shes using him for his money and fancy restaurants while also seeing if shes got a shot to get back with u (hense the contact from her all the time). Do u respond to her? Do u want her back? Seems like a rebound relationship and shel get fed up of having no proper love and just someone with money. How long were u together?
Author xztjohn Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 we were together for a year and a half. ive wanted her back but she was playing both fields saying im just really confused. after a month when i refused to take her back i ignored her for that time she became committed to the guy and they became official. i asked for her back at that time and she refused. i didnt take her back at that time was cause she told me she had sex sith him. she calls me from unknown and text me from time to time still but its like once in awhile, not like constant like it used to be. i think the new guy was a dick cause roght after we broke up he started toget woth her and post up all these things basically rubbing it on my face on facebook. so i blocked both of them. even when we were together he was really distant towards me and doesnt seem like a genuinely good guy. a part pf me wants karma to bite them in the ass.
Author xztjohn Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 i dont know if she is using him she is a really good person, i dont know. just bothers me that things turned out the way it did. felt like i got betrayed and backstabbed by her and some guy who i personally think is a loser. its his first gf btw, and i dont think its right for him to homewreck someones relationship like that. she said back then that if it wasnt for him she would have went back to me for sure. i thot our love for each other can overcome this but i guess not. when she said they had sex it hurt me real deep
Philosoraptor Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 The question is why does it matter? If they find true love and get married, great for them. If not, then that's too bad. Why do her actions in her own life seem to bother you so much? Right now you need to take control of yourself and stop letting her actions grab you by the giblets. 1
Author xztjohn Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 it just hurts really bad being left for someone else like that
Philosoraptor Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 it just hurts really bad being left for someone else like that I can't say that it doesn't, but you need to stop focusing on her and start focusing on yourself.
Linda Lee Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 (edited) With time she will love him and forget about you. You have dumped her, and it seems that she is enjoying her life. It seems that things haven't worked out the way you wanted it to be. Sorry if I come across as a harsh person, but That's what I think. Edited March 8, 2012 by Linda Lee
Author xztjohn Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 (edited) yeah i dumped her first but i wanted her back the next day and she got influenced and dumped me. I feel like breaking no contact and asking her how she is doing? would that be a good or bad idea. I haven't talked to her for along time, everytime she contacted me I just ignored. Its been about 2 and a half months now with minimal contact, any contact is initiated by her with unknown phone calls, small chit chat texts. When we were dating she said she has never loved anyone as much as me before, she had 3 boyfriends before and she said she loved me the most out of all of them. When I asked her if she loves him as much as me she said no. So I must have done something right. Edited March 8, 2012 by xztjohn
Linda Lee Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 If you still get that phones calls from her, then that's a signal that she misses you, therefore don't wait until your door of opportunities closes forever. Why do you insist on ignoring her calls, and force your heart to put up with the hurtful feelings? It is really weird how much we want to hurt ourselves, enjoy your time , who knows what Tomorrow is hiding.
Author xztjohn Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 (edited) before it was from her number, now its unknown calls. I am pretty sure that it is her, cause she usually ends up texting me later on. I answer but no one answers. One time I answer and no one responds so i hang up and immediately right after i get a call again. Do you think its her? what should i do? I'm thinking about saying "Hey I know its you" do you need to tell me something? I never got unknown calls before before our break up, first it was her phone number than after awhile it turned to unkonwn calls Edited March 9, 2012 by xztjohn
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