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So I'm deciding not to focus on dating (for now)


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Wow , now this is the def of a true man in my opinion. Very smart thinking. I am in the same place : )

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:laugh: I've come a long way since this thread -

 

I'm deciding not to date right now. I don't think I should be doing so when I am not quite sorted out yet. Sure, if I meet someone who's attracted to me regardless, I will date them, but I have decided to channel my desire away from pursuit of dates, and into the rest of my life first and foremost.

 

I think this is better for me for at least the next couple of months.......

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With the fact that I am trying to get fit, start a business and make money, not to mention the amount of time I will have to spend on my music, I've decided that it's probably not a good idea for me to start dating at this point. I am already pretty sure that I am not a catch for the women I would like to date, purely due to the fact that although I am getting there, I'm not quite a true man yet, and still have some immaturity and insecurity to purge myself of.

 

So I think for me, it would be better if I give myself at least another few months before I start to get out there and date properly. I think this is better for me in the long run. Hopefully all things will fall in place by then.

 

:)

 

tbh, you are probably one of the most secure/mature people on this site.

 

I think focusing on yourself for a while is always a good thing. Best of luck to you.

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With the fact that I am trying to get fit, start a business and make money, not to mention the amount of time I will have to spend on my music, I've decided that it's probably not a good idea for me to start dating at this point.

 

Good to have some goals... Good luck with the business (and the other stuff)!

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If you feel that this is the best thing for you, then all the best of luck to you in your quest. I hope, however, that you are not avoiding something though. I encountered a lot of guys who said things like this to me (and other women I suppose), and they were just full of bull^^^^. They married the next one that came along.

 

But if this is really what you are up to, good for you and hope you become a better person because of this.

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I actually feel happy when I see couples walking hand-in-hand.

 

 

This is a very good sign man. I used to get angry and jealous when I saw happy couples together, but when I started to take control of my life and change the way I reacted to things and the way I thought, I started to notice that I was happy for those people.

 

On the thread topic. Don't forget that while you are not focusing on women or dating you can still work on developing better social skills.

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