Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 So after multiple visits to the Dr. today i saw a dermatologist and he confirmed that what I really have is a viral infection called Molluscum Contagiosum and not a strain of HPV. Idk if this is good or bad news. We had sex when i had these bumps because I thought they were just razor bumps at the time. And we had sex about a month ago and the Dr. said that she might get MC or she might not. When i thought i had HPV i told my gf and we almost broke up as she was freaking out but we decided it was not worth breaking up over and we decided to stay together. That all happened about 2 weeks ago. Then she went to her dr. and he told her that she would be fine because she has been vaccinated for HPV. However now that I know I have the viral infection MC idk if I should tell her I have it. Should I just play it off as if i thought i had HPV to avoid a relapse of her freaking out and then everything falling apart again? Because in her mind she has akready prepared herself for the fact that she might potentially have HPV but this viral infection is a whole new thing. The thing about this viral infection is that it can go away pretty quickly if you have a strong immune system. So i just don't know if I should tell her if actually have MC and not HPV? I don't want to ruin things again and have her freak out but idk what to do. I would really appreciate some advice. Thank you.
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Tell her "baby you can call me clean-eggroll now" lolz But seriously, be honest with her. Dont freaking lie dude. Dont give her a reason to leave you. Stop being selfish. 3
xpaperxcutx Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 For the sake of the relationship, you should divulge every little information your doctor tells you. That's called being honest. Do not use her freakouts as an excuse because one, you are her sexual partner and vice versa, thus the both of you are responsible for the other's sexual safety, and two, stop being a wuss! The importance of a relationship is being able to communicate not hold back information because you're afraid of drama. Again, you guys didn't break up. Chances are, you're not going to break up this time around either.
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 For the sake of the relationship, you should divulge every little information your doctor tells you. That's called being honest. Do not use her freakouts as an excuse because one, you are her sexual partner and vice versa, thus the both of you are responsible for the other's sexual safety, and two, stop being a wuss! The importance of a relationship is being able to communicate not hold back information because you're afraid of drama. Again, you guys didn't break up. Chances are, you're not going to break up this time around either. All of this. This is exactly the elaboration I missed in my post. Also, OP...Golden Rule brah. Abide by it. Dont do something to her that you wouldnt want her doing to you. And while you are at it...the Wiccan Rede applies as well; "If it harms none, do what you will". Lying has a negative impact on her because you strip away her free will in the matter, and you also damage the integrity of your relationship. Man up dude.
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 If she develops some kind of growth then she will probably just assume that it is just HPV. Then when she goes to her specialist he will tell her that it is in fact the viral infection MC. And at the most she will come back to me and tell me what she has and will just think that I was misdiagnosed. That saves me from telling her and creating more drama. Thats how i see it playing out if I dont tell her.I have no problem being honest with her because I have done so with the whole HPV scare but I feel like this is a different scenario
oaks Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You need to disclose this information to your current sexual partner. There shouldn't be any question about that.
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 If she develops some kind of growth then she will probably just assume that it is just HPV. Then when she goes to her specialist he will tell her that it is in fact the viral infection MC. And at the most she will come back to me and tell me what she has and will just think that I was misdiagnosed. That saves me from telling her and creating more drama. Thats how i see it playing out if I dont tell her.I have no problem being honest with her because I have done so with the whole HPV scare but I feel like this is a different scenario Why would she assume its HPV if she got anti virals for it? Obviously she will go to the doctor and they will take samples of it and test it to make sure they know what it is before giving treatment. You are stupid if you missed this fact. You think shes just gonna think you were misdiagnosed? riiiiiight:rolleyes: Especially considering there is no HPV test for men. But the doctors just messed up your lab work at diagnosed HPV huh? You know what dude...your relationship is fvked anyway...because this thread right here shows how selfish you are. I do hope she still bails on you eventually...because youve shown yourself not to be trustworthy and she deserves better. Especially since your ok with giving her something and then lying about it.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 If she develops some kind of growth then she will probably just assume that it is just HPV. Then when she goes to her specialist he will tell her that it is in fact the viral infection MC. And at the most she will come back to me and tell me what she has and will just think that I was misdiagnosed. That saves me from telling her and creating more drama. Thats how i see it playing out if I dont tell her.I have no problem being honest with her because I have done so with the whole HPV scare but I feel like this is a different scenario So because one is not as severe as the other you feel you don't own her an explanation? That's like me saying hey, I have oral herpes but since there isn't a breakout, I'm going to withhold that info until an actual breakout coincides with a makeout session.
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Well her complaint with the whole HPV scare was that there is always some sort of drama with me its one thing after another. We go from good to bad then back to good etc. We were good before the HPV scare then things got bad between us then she said she would stay with me and we are good again and now if i tell her its not an STD and that it is a viral infection im afraid we are gonna go back to things be bad between us because the emotional rollercoaster is taking a toll on her emotions. Like I said If i just play it off as if I thought that it was HPV and she finds out from her Dr. that it really is a viral infection could she really be that mad? Lets just say I didn't go to the dermatologist and that I never found out that it is a viral infection and that I just kept assuming that it was HPV. Well say she goes back to her gyno because she develops bumps and he tells her that she has actually a viral infection. Would I technically be at fault since the Dr. originally told me I had HPV. Im not a doctor so how would I know if this was really a viral infection if i didn't actually go to the dermatologist today? Does this make sense to anyone other than myself? I just scared that if i tell her then she will consider breaking up again.
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Why would she assume its HPV if she got anti virals for it? Obviously she will go to the doctor and they will take samples of it and test it to make sure they know what it is before giving treatment. You are stupid if you missed this fact. You think shes just gonna think you were misdiagnosed? riiiiiight:rolleyes: Especially considering there is no HPV test for men. But the doctors just messed up your lab work at diagnosed HPV huh? You know what dude...your relationship is fvked anyway...because this thread right here shows how selfish you are. I do hope she still bails on you eventually...because youve shown yourself not to be trustworthy and she deserves better. Especially since your ok with giving her something and then lying about it. yeah they is no test to test for HPV in men. The Dr. just looked at what I had and said it could either be 1 of 3 things. And there is no lab work either so idk what your referring to.
pteromom Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You don't have to turn it into a drama. Just say "Hey, I got results back from whatever is going on with me down there, and it isn't HPV. It's MC. Here's some info on MC..." Simple, easy, and it's good news, so there's no reason she'd get upset.
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 You don't have to turn it into a drama. Just say "Hey, I got results back from whatever is going on with me down there, and it isn't HPV. It's MC. Here's some info on MC..." Simple, easy, and it's good news, so there's no reason she'd get upset. i completely agree with that. Its just the fact that MC creates bumps. If untreated they go away on their own but if you treat them properly that will go away quicker. I just feel like she is going to be upset that she has to deal with treatment. Not to mention that neither of us can have sex until were both free of the infection
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 yeah they is no test to test for HPV in men. The Dr. just looked at what I had and said it could either be 1 of 3 things. And there is no lab work either so idk what your referring to. So if theres not HPV test in men, how the hell do you think shes gonna buy your BS about being misdiagnosed if her doc actually tests it and finds out something different? Shes already doubting you as it is...so you dont think she might suspect you of lying? If a girl gave me the littlest reason to think she was lying to be about something like this, Id be out the door. So its better for you to be upfront with her. Come on now, stop being a selfish twit.
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 So if theres not HPV test in men, how the hell do you think shes gonna buy your BS about being misdiagnosed if her doc actually tests it and finds out something different? Shes already doubting you as it is...so you dont think she might suspect you of lying? If a girl gave me the littlest reason to think she was lying to be about something like this, Id be out the door. So its better for you to be upfront with her. Come on now, stop being a selfish twit. We obviously aren't seeing eye to eye on this. If there isn't a test that means that I wasn't given a solid answer as to what I have. Meaning it COULD be a strain of HPV or something else. In this case it turned out to be something else when i originally was told it MIGHT be HPV.
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Dude use your damn brain. You think its better to put MORE stress on her by having her think you have a more serious disease than what it really is? HPV is very serious for women, so why the hell would you think its better for her to this you still have that? If anything that would make her want to leave right then and there instead of dealing with the drama of being with someone who might have given her HPV If you tell her its MC, and show her info, shed know its less serious and then when she gets checked out and comes back clean for HPV, she will be fine. Use your damn brain kid. Stop being a selfish azz. 2
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Dude use your damn brain. You think its better to put MORE stress on her by having her think you have a more serious disease than what it really is? HPV is very serious for women, so why the hell would you think its better for her to this you still have that? If anything that would make her want to leave right then and there instead of dealing with the drama of being with someone who might have given her HPV If you tell her its MC, and show her info, shed know its less serious and then when she gets checked out and comes back clean for HPV, she will be fine. Use your damn brain kid. Stop being a selfish azz. I completely understand that. But as of now she isn't really worried about HPV anymore because her Dr. told her that she would be fine. So she is relieved and calm at the moment because she isnt worried about getting HPV anymore. i do see where your coming from though.
kaylan Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 (edited) She may be fine against a few types of HPV...but not all of them. There isnt a vaccine that protects against all of them. Sounds like her doctor either doesnt know his stuff, or was trying to calm her down and tell her she was protected against some of them. I have a hard time believing he just up and told her "your vaccinated against all HPV strains" Just be honest with her dude. Itll only blow up in your face if you arent. Edited March 6, 2012 by kaylan
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 She may be fine against a few types of HPV...but not all of them. There isnt a vaccine that protects against all of them. Sounds like her doctor either doesnt know his stuff, or was trying to calm her down and tell her she was protected against some of them. I have a hard time believing he just up and told her "your vaccinated against all HPV strains" Just be honest with her dude. Itll only blow up in your face if you arent. i feel like if i treat it as good news and be like "hey i have great news what I have is in fact a minor viral infection and not an STD and should clear up rather quickly if treated right" she will take it as good news and shouldn't get as upset?
theories_galore Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Honestly, there is no way around this. You HAVE TO tell her. Then, give her some information on it. I think it's your moral duty to do this. 1
oaks Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 i feel like if i treat it as good news and be like "hey i have great news what I have is in fact a minor viral infection and not an STD and should clear up rather quickly if treated right" she will take it as good news and shouldn't get as upset? I'm not sure how comforting "I only have a virus" really is, given how this could apply to so many STDs. Just tell her everything. 1
Author Dirtyeggroll Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 I'm not sure how comforting "I only have a virus" really is, given how this could apply to so many STDs. Just tell her everything. Molluscum Contagiosum is a viral infection that can clear up in a couple weeks if treated right. Nothing as serious as HPV
silvermercy Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 You are actually debating if you should tell her if she has a LESS serious infection? So what if she's calm now? That's irrelevant. I don't understand your logic... Second, if you don't tell her that and someday she finds out on her own (I bet she will) how do you think will that make her feel? You HAVE to tell her or I promise you will get far worse drama in the future if you don't.
reallyhotguy Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 i feel like if i treat it as good news and be like "hey i have great news what I have is in fact a minor viral infection and not an STD and should clear up rather quickly if treated right" she will take it as good news and shouldn't get as upset? Look buddy, you're thinking too hard. Here are the facts, tell her them, collaborate on a solution. That's it. Put it another way: how you say it to her is not going to make a difference as to whether she leaves you over this or not. By the way, I also think you're an idiot. Are you seriously considering willfully passing on a viral infection to your partner because you're too afraid to tell her the truth?
veggirl Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Geez. Why are you so scared of your girlfriend? Just tell her "The Dr said it's not XYZ, he said it's ABC, this is what we do" And if she thinks there is so much other drama in your relationship...then there are bigger fish to fry here.
Star Gazer Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 It's like saying, "Oh, I told her that she might have HIV. Turns out it's not HIV, it's Hep C. I don't have to tell her because I already warned and freaked her out over the HIV, which it turns out I don't have. I have the Hep C." Does that make any sense to you, dude? HELL NO. Tell her. 1
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