electricvanilla Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 (edited) Posting for my buddy:: Last week I proposed to my girlfriend of 3 years at Disney at midnight. We had come across the topic of marriage and future plans multiple times. Since this was planned, Disney staff presented us with huge buttons which said 'engaged' and 'happily ever after' after she said yes. She wore the happily ever after and when I tried to take a photo of us wearing them she was hesitant. *On the ride home she tore it off and threw it on the floor as she 'fell asleep'* On the drive back home, she became serious/annoyed all of a sudden and asked what this meant for the relationship. She said 'so now we have a year to get married, is that what this is all about?'. I said no and that some people remain engaged for a few years before walking down the isle. Told her there was no rush. Then she says we should keep the engagement on the silent side for a while. I told her my parents already knew as well as a few friends. I don't know, I just thought she was going to be excited and want to tell her family ...you know? She couldn't give me a clear answer as to why we should keep it a secret. She also said 'well we can try it out for a year or something, that's all an engagement is after all, just to see how it works out'......I always thought a committed relationship was to satisfy that? She hasn't spoken of that night since, even if I try to bring it up. The ring I gave her, which was this Chanel ring she has had her eye on the longest time....she hid it. When her sister found it, she lied and said she was holding for a friend that will be proposing. I just don't understand how someone can talk about marriage and future plans soooo much and become this way when the next step is taken? Anyone experience this before? Edited March 6, 2012 by electricvanilla
Lauriebell82 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Most likely, in THEORY marriage/engagement sounded wonderful and dreamy to her. When she was actually placed in the situation it became more real and freaked her out. She isn't ready to get married and he should really consider calling off the engagement for right now. She should have said "no" in the first place, but I suppose at Disney World she probably felt like she was backed into a corner. Or she just was playing him from the start and never had any intention of marriage or engagement. I would think that may be more unlikely the theory I provided, but plausible. He needs to have a talk with her and ask her flat out if she wants to marry him now, or ever. If she beats around the bush (ie "well we could try it") then he needs to be firm and ask for a yes or no.
HHC Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 How long have you been together? How long as she already had a chance to ' try it out'?
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