I am being a difficult girlfriend?

[Hazell]

Hello,

 

I am trying to understand if i am the one who is being overly sensitive or if my boyfriend is not being understanding with me.

My boyfriend and I are doing long distance relationship, due to school,we get along very well,and we love each other.

But we have come to an impasse,november last year he went to a party and took pics with a girl on his lap(who he used to fool around with),another one on the couch pretending to be sleeping and they were on facebook.I was very upset and we talked about it and he apologized.I told him it was disrespectful to him,to me,and to the relationship. Few days ago he went to another party and took almost the same pictures but this time,they were 3 girls,and he thinks since those girls didn't have any history with him,and no one is naked,or anything out of the ordinary,i should be okay with those pictures. He knows i am not controlling,and i don't mind him hanging out with girls,and we even comment on girls,i am not really the jealous type,but for some reason those kind of pictures for me are not okay,and they portray lack of seriousness/respect in my opinion.Its more of a moral issue.And one can say what if he takes them and i don't get to see them,but the fact that those pictures were taken in the first place is what i don't understand.I thought it was a simple request but apparently its not for him.

He said, it feels like i am taking his freedom away,and now he doesn't know how to take pictures with girls. Honestly, i am being a bad girlfriend?For me it sounds pretty simple,i go out all the time,and most of my friends are guys,however that kind of things doesn't happen. Please let me know. Thanks

[Philosoraptor]

If it bothers you then that's all that matters. But I'd agree that he is being an insensitive jerk. I'd suggest dumping this guy and finding someone that is local.

 

Just think... if this makes it on facebook what images do you not get to see? How many girls have sat in his lap and no picture was taken... or worse?

[KathyM]

He's not bf material at this point. He wants to live a single lifestyle with no commitment, and doesn't want to have to answer for anything that he does. I suggest you let this guy go. Not only is he long distance, but he is not acting like a bf at all, and is disrespecting your relationship. Time to pull the plug on that relationship.

[Trimmer]

He said, it feels like i am taking his freedom away,and now he doesn't know how to take pictures with girls.

I would return his freedom back to him, immediately.