TeeZee Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 I've been challenged most of my life with a chronic case of rejection sensitivity, where I am easily slighted by others. If people get together without me, I feel rejected. When I move cities and lose touch with friends I feel they are crappy people for not caring about me. I just read something about Wilt Chamberlain. Someone who knew him well said he was very unhappy and always complaining that people didn't treat him well or include him socially. Hey, he sounds just like me! Apparently he also lied about having had 20,000 women. Anyone have any similar feelings or thoughts on rejection sensitivity?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You dont have rejection sensitivity. You are just rejected alot because you dont have anything to offer people. If you come off desperate when trying to make friends, no one wants to hang with you. If you arent funny or fun to be around, or cant go with the flow, people wont want to hang with you. Making friends is like a business. You have to bring something new to the table to be on the inside. If you have an attitude of "hi guys, can I tag along?" You'll never make friends. You have to be SO fascinating, that they want to ask you to join them. You also have to not care if they dont. So instead of worrying about the fact that they reject you, figure out what it is about you that turns them off.
Author TeeZee Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 You dont have rejection sensitivity. You are just rejected alot because you dont have anything to offer people. If you come off desperate when trying to make friends, no one wants to hang with you. If you arent funny or fun to be around, or cant go with the flow, people wont want to hang with you. Making friends is like a business. You have to bring something new to the table to be on the inside. If you have an attitude of "hi guys, can I tag along?" You'll never make friends. You have to be SO fascinating, that they want to ask you to join them. You also have to not care if they dont. So instead of worrying about the fact that they reject you, figure out what it is about you that turns them off. Ha, that's funny- you talk like you know who you are talking to- which of course you don't. Rather than asking questions you make huge insulting generalizations. Big ego boost for you I guess? I am not desperate, nor do I have a wimpy attitude. I've already spent time trying to figure out what may turn people off and changed that. So what do you do that makes you SO fascinating?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Ha, that's funny- you talk like you know who you are talking to- which of course you don't. Rather than asking questions you make huge insulting generalizations. Big ego boost for you I guess? I am not desperate, nor do I have a wimpy attitude. I've already spent time trying to figure out what may turn people off and changed that. So what do you do that makes you SO fascinating? I didnt mean to insult you, but its just obvious whats going on with you. I have friends that call me to hang out, unlike you, so I know Im fascinating. So if you changed things so much, why are you still here complaining that you get rejected?
Author TeeZee Posted March 7, 2012 Author Posted March 7, 2012 Still with the insults "I have friends that call me to hang out, unlike you, so I know Im fascinating." I never said I have no friends, I said I feel easily rejected. So if you are trying to be helpful (is that really why you are on this site?) then what do you think you do that makes you so fascinating?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 Still with the insults "I have friends that call me to hang out, unlike you, so I know Im fascinating." I never said I have no friends, I said I feel easily rejected. You didnt say it in this thread that you have no friends, but you did say in your other threads that your "friends" blow you off often. So that led me to believe that they arent really into you for some reason. Now I see why.
University_girl Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 While I am currently feeling rejected by my "friends", I do not always feel like this. If a friend doesn't invite me somewhere, I don't get upset. I don't know why, I just don't. I know someone who is like you and is very sensitive to rejection. She always needs attention (I'm not saying this is you), and it honestly pushes people away. She's too sensitive and insecure to how people perceive that she creates assumptions which are untrue (most of the time). She is too worried to how people view her, that she always feels rejected if people don't respond to her the way she wants them to. These expectations she creates pushes herself away from friends and causes us to feel overwhelmed. Due to this insecurity, we always feel like she's upset about something. All I can say is, you need to work on this insecurity, because most of the time, with the girl I know, it's her creating expectations, and when the expectations aren't met, she feels rejected. If you are anything like her, I say to get over this insecurity. It's going to ruin friendships, and you'll never feel satisfied. 1
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