nick d Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 So we have been broken up 5 weeks now.. Every night she goes out partying and gets wasted and does who knows what with all the guys she parties with.. When we broke up she wanted to still have sex with me. We did 2 times and I stopped it after that. Now the times I have broken NC she just writes me back acting like she is "the ****". Honestly I try and be civil and she is a total B to me!! And I'm sure she's already had sex with another guy.. But yet I continue to contact her! What is wrong with me?! She has already told me off and everything..
Philosoraptor Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Why do something that continues to bring you pain? I think you'd be best off cutting your own ability to connect with her in any way. Also, stop focusing on her life. Why does it matter what she is doing? Better yourself and find happiness within yourself and your life. 1
Chi townD Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Agreed, why bring the pain on yourself. She already told you off! That's enough of a reason to never contact this crazy person any longer.l
Numb79 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Why bring yourself pain? Why are you still doing this to yourself? You should focus on your life rather than hers. I admit, everything these folks are telling you is true. You really shouldn't contact her and you really shouldn't care what she is doing. But as we all know.... its alot easier said than done. I am not saying what you are doing is right or wrong. Only you can decide which path to take. There is really no wrong or right way to handle break ups.... everyone handles them in their own way. If this is how you choose to handle your situation then more power to you! But..... at the same time, you must also understand that you are pro-longing the agony. I too have wanted to reach out to the X. I too have said to myself.... well, maybe if I reach out to her and have her reject me a few hundred times then I would learn to resent her and it would be easier for me to just let it go. But then I realize that it was just my emotions that were trying to play tricks on me. In times like this, we need to be logical. Need to think with our head rather than our hearts. Its alot easier said than done.... but its something that MUST be done. I guess what I am trying to get at is...... you do what you feel is right for you. Be prepared for the outcome of your decisions. Regardless of which path you choose..... you will come out a stronger individual in the end.
radiodarcy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Agreed, why bring the pain on yourself. She already told you off! That's enough of a reason to never contact this crazy person any longer.l agreed! when my ex dumped me he sent me an extremely nasty emailing basically telling me to f**k off. that was all the incentive i needed to stay far away. there's nothing cool about how she's acting. with all this excessive partying she's behaving recklessly and irresponsibly. why would you want to have anything to do with someone who acts like that?
ThatDudeXO Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 there's nothing cool about how she's acting. with all this excessive partying she's behaving recklessly and irresponsibly. why would you want to have anything to do with someone who acts like that? Yup. There is nothing cool about partying and getting wasted. Just stop contacting her and find someone else to satisfy your needs because obviously she's too immature to do that for you.
flitzanu Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Yup. There is nothing cool about partying and getting wasted. Just stop contacting her and find someone else to satisfy your needs because obviously she's too immature to do that for you. cmon you two, it's KINDA cool. ok ok it isn't "cool" if you're partying just to "be cool". but...this is a noticeable trend with younger girls that dump dudes, they seem to run out and party like their lives depend on it. my opinion is they enjoy the attention from a room full of guys.
radiodarcy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 cmon you two, it's KINDA cool. ok ok it isn't "cool" if you're partying just to "be cool". but...this is a noticeable trend with younger girls that dump dudes, they seem to run out and party like their lives depend on it. my opinion is they enjoy the attention from a room full of guys. *sigh* i suppose so. i have honestly never done this. but i would thing the attention from a room full of guys bit gets a bit old after awhile. besides - - let's face it - -she's not the only girl on the planet. so chances are their interest starts to wane with each new girl who enters the room. attention is fleeting. but what do i know about being cool-- my idea of a good time is watching primetime PBS with my dog and cats at my side
tgr172 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Just a point to SERIOUSLY consider are the issues with STD's. Man you need to weigh that. She is partyinh whit party guys and if she is having sex you need to be very very wary. Also what if she gets preg and come back to you and suddenly she id telling you you are the father. Its been done often. BTW I agree she is getting her "attention fix" and is feeling like ahe is the bomb. But after a while she will be considered the used up ol slut and any normal man would not want to be seen actually being serious with her if she does this for too long.
ThatDudeXO Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 cmon you two, it's KINDA cool. ok ok it isn't "cool" if you're partying just to "be cool". but...this is a noticeable trend with younger girls that dump dudes, they seem to run out and party like their lives depend on it. my opinion is they enjoy the attention from a room full of guys. Haha! I love partying, I do all sorts of crazy stuff when I party. I go out to meet new people, have fun etc but I don't see anything "cool" about it lol But I get the idea his ex is going out to show off, act like a party girl, make a parade of her moving on when she isn't. And then reporting back to him as if she's so cool, that isn't cool to me at all. 1
Falcon25 Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 You are contacting her because you are weak. Women are attracted to MEN. Men who go party, spread their seeds, not hang on to them. BE A MAN.
flitzanu Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 *sigh* i suppose so. i have honestly never done this. but i would thing the attention from a room full of guys bit gets a bit old after awhile. besides - - let's face it - -she's not the only girl on the planet. so chances are their interest starts to wane with each new girl who enters the room. attention is fleeting. but what do i know about being cool-- my idea of a good time is watching primetime PBS with my dog and cats at my side aww...dogs and cats always make the best tv companions!
radiodarcy Posted March 7, 2012 Posted March 7, 2012 hehehe. yup. no one to argue with about what we're going watch even though the basset does tend to hog the couch
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