mustang guy Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Okay, first off i really don't go online to solve my problems but i'm going to try it out since i don't have anyone else to turn to right now. I thought this site was pretty good, and hopefully i can help some people on here from my experiences with relationships too. Well first off, My friend who i've known for awhile has two roomates that have moved in with him, both females. Lets call him friend A!. He has a crush on the one, well my whole group of friends do, lol... she always hangs out with us and goes out to the bar with the group. My other friend decided to ask her out, since he was interested in her, We will call him friend B! They went out a few times and my friend A didn't like it, but learned to deal with it. My Friend B gave the male specis a band name cause he was also cheating on his wife with her, long story short, all he wanted to do was use her as a one night stand which caused trouble within the group, he is out of the picture now. Me being me, i don't talk to people much, i don't like drama and I really don't like the day and age that i'm in. I'm the type of guy that works all day and likes to have a few drinks on the weekend... Well me and my girlfriend are splitting up, were different people and we decided to go our own way. I get a txt message the other week from Friend A's roommate asking me "is everything ok". From a friend point of view we start talking, which is weird cause i've never really said two words to her before. She tells me how lonely she is when shes home alone and talks to me about her life and issues relating to her schooling. So i'm goin to admit this, i'm into her, think she's an amazing girl to talk to and i think she looks beautiful. I got a problem, i really don't want to cause tension between Friend A and me. Were the same age and have known eachother for some time. Also How do i know shes interested in me? I think this is kind of wierd that she's talking to me and its starting to get personal. She keeps telling me i'm an amazing guy and she wouldn't mind getting to know me more. I feel like i need to leave this alone, i got to much to loose. But on the other hand i want to pursue it. Any opinions? and do you think she's interested in me? Thanks!
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 (edited) Well she's obviously into you knuckle head, she's practically telling you she wants something more with you. Although from my point of view, personally on how I handle myself In life I'm not real keen on jumping her bones. I think that her being with this married friend of yours, and then him just wanting her for sex, while your other buddy gets butt hurt because he can't make a move quick enough....all seems pretty lame...I'll admit it, It feels beneath me. She's also going to have issues, this girl...she's acting with a streak of insecurity and desperation. I'm not sure If you're into the type, I think once you get with her you're going to see it coming together. Plus your friend is going to be disappointed but honestly that's his problem, he needs to be able to make it happen on it's own. The best you can do is talk to him about your intentions of getting to know her better and possibly moving closer with her. Not sure why you want the left-overs man, your married friend obviously saw through her and that she's the kind of girl you can dupe over, but If you share some compassion and think you can give this girl what she needs then go for it, but don't be surprised when she's more of a mess than what appears on the outside...she sounds like the type that gets around. Otherwise go for it, It's an easy in, you'll have her into you in no time If you don't pussy foot around, all lights are green. Act with confidence, to me It's already in the bag so don't worry so much, it'll progress the way you want it, don't be apprehensive. Edited March 6, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Author mustang guy Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Thanks man, lol. It does bother me that he used her, thats why i'm hesitant about continuing on with it. He lied to her and told her he was single and that he wanted a true relationship with her. She believed him and he used her. But i don't know her that well to tell you she's damaged or that she sleeps around. I'm going to see her in a few days, gotta take a look at her car for her. I just wished i knew more about her background.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Well if she was lied to then she was lied to...however I don't know how hanging out with all you guys she didn't figure out something was suspicious or this guy was actually married. Women are usually pretty smart about picking this kind of stuff up with men, they can tell you are hiding something or something isn't right. I'd just go for it honestly, she seems like a decent enough girl and you seem like a decent enough guy, and you seem to fine with everything otherwise. Just put that past behind you.
The_Joker Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Agreeing with Ninjainpajamas, I also thinks he likes you and is interested. Would you say she is already a pretty good friend? Sounds like she knows your group quite well already, and does she know how your friend 'A' who lives with her, feels about her? I'd say go for it, you like her, she seems to like you, the issue with the other friend, 'A', that's why I want to know if this girl knows about how 'A' feels about her. It's not like she is your buddy's ex or anything, I'd say, if anything was possible between them, it would have happened already, but again, I don't know the specifics, but hopefully it all works out But yea, it's funny how us guys are able to see all the signs of a girl liking someone when it's not us..... but about girls that we like, and are guessing if they like us back, even when signs are obvious from someone's else perspective, we're like blind or something! (in that situation myself right now...)
ascendotum Posted March 6, 2012 Posted March 6, 2012 Also How do i know shes interested in me? * She tells me how lonely she is when shes home alone and talks to me about her life and issues relating to her schooling. * Well me and my girlfriend are splitting up....I get a txt message the other week from Friend A's roommate asking me "is everything ok". * She keeps telling me i'm an amazing guy and she wouldn't mind getting to know me more. Mate, she's throwing out the welcome mat. You said you think she's an amazing girl, how many amazing girls come into your life each year. If there's plenty, then you can let this one go, to avoid upsetting friend A. Your only issue here should be do you want to upset your friend or take on a girl that your other friend had a fling with. Your entitled to desire this girl just as much as friend A does, just because he voiced it first does not give him first dibbs or exclusive rights to her. Your situation is a little different from friend B, who just wanted to exploit an opportunity to score a root behind his wifes back. I think you should ask her out on a date and get to know her better, and just to confirm for yourself that she's into you and not her roomate. You could then bring it up in conversation with friend A, how she's been flirting with you, and see what his reaction is.
Author mustang guy Posted March 6, 2012 Author Posted March 6, 2012 Thanks guys! Ya, i think we do get blind when were wanted, lol... i didn't know if she was just looking for someone to fill the gay best friend role. I don't think she knows that friend A likes her, he said he never really made a move on her yet. I'm going to ask her out for a drink next time i'm over there, i'm going to do whats best for me. Then i'll have a talk with friend A and tell him whats going on.
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