Easyguy14 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I just turned 30 last year so this doesnt apply to me but with women this is a different story from my own experiences. noticing women in this age I met are alcoholics, have multiple kids and no daddy helping out, or just old trust issues. its okay if she's 20+ and single but going in her 30s is a huge red flag Im sorry.
serial muse Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Why do people say "I'm sorry" when they aren't? /snark Anyway. It's a shame you've had such bad experiences but this sounds remarkably similar to the old "if a guy's not married by 35 then he's gay" trope. Both get a resounding "meh" from me.
Appleanche Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 (edited) I'm over 30 and single. Guess why? My ex cheated - if not for that I wouldn't be. I am just one example but there are many other perfectly acceptable reasons why a woman in her 30's might be single. Be more open-minded OP or you are limiting your dating pool and weeding out some great potentials. Edited March 5, 2012 by Appleanche
darkmoon Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 in my thirties, i (a woman) wanted to keep my options open and have my own living space
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 What's fair for the goose is fair for the gander I say.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 What's the point of making such a shallow remark (except to troll)? It's a total loser. Good luck with that.
TeeZee Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Yes, and never trust anyone who doesn't understand how capitalization works.
Shaun-Dro Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 What's the point of making such a shallow remark (except to troll)? It's a total loser. Good luck with that. I don't find thread shallow at all. There are definitely legitimate reasons as to why a woman can be single into her 30s but what I got from the thread is a woman being "still" single "going into" her 30s. There's a difference. Anyway, I still believe, and always will, that women need to use all of the sexual power given to them throughout their younger, prime years to snag the best man possible, because that power shifts when she's past 35. 2
udolipixie Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I just turned 30 last year so this doesnt apply to me but with women this is a different story from my own experiences. noticing women in this age I met are alcoholics, have multiple kids and no daddy helping out, or just old trust issues. its okay if she's 20+ and single but going in her 30s is a huge red flag Im sorry. Sounds pretty similar to if a man is still single past 30 something is wrong. I doubt the validity in both cases. If you keep encountering 30 somethings like this then try doing what most men over 30 do date 20 somethings.
silvermercy Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Right... because then men going into their 30s single are not a red flag at all... lol Seriously, if I didn't see the OP's post number I'd think this was a troll. Or maybe he is... a seasoned one (pun intended). 1
Feelin Frisky Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I don't find thread shallow at all. There are definitely legitimate reasons as to why a woman can be single into her 30s but what I got from the thread is a woman being "still" single "going into" her 30s. There's a difference. Anyway, I still believe, and always will, that women need to use all of the sexual power given to them throughout their younger, prime years to snag the best man possible, because that power shifts when she's past 35. The second part of what you said is your opinion and you're welcome to it. But the thread implying that a woman being single past 30 means there's "something wrong"--much less the remark about alcoholics and multiple illegit children is a loser argument that shows no knowledge of cultural evolution since before the national highway system allowed women to get college degrees en masse. It's shallow and trollish. Woman over 30 may have been in relationships that didn't work out, or, they chose career over housewifism or w/e. Only someone of about 30 or less would even think to say something like this--older, more mature folks don't see unmarried by 30 as sign of an alcoholic or unwed baby manufacturer. Unbelievable. 1
somedude81 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I swear I made something like this thread a while ago. Either way I agree with you, but there is more to it than something being wrong. Odds are she's had something(s) happen in her life that turned her off from serious relationships. And that could be why she doesn't want to be in one. I just turned 30 last year so this doesnt apply to me I disagree with you here. It's a really bad sign if a guy is 30 and still single, unless he recently got out of a serious relationship or something. Most men don't choose to be single and if they did, they're most likely sleeping around which is a red flag in itself for women who want relationships. 1
serial muse Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I am finding this thread to be very surreal. So all women (or maybe everyone???) needs to be permanently paired off by 30 or at least never between partners and therefore actively dating (and thus on a website), to avoid being considered a drunk ticking time bomb daddy-wanting oversized baggage-toting McLoserface? Ooookay. 1
fishtaco Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Incorrect, I know plenty of women not single past 30 that have a lot of things wrong with them. "Single past 30" is not a good indicator of anything. If they're psycho, they will still be psycho regardless of their relationship status past 30. 1
somedude81 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I am finding this thread to be very surreal. So all women (or maybe everyone???) needs to be permanently paired off by 30 or at least never between partners and therefore actively dating (and thus on a website), to avoid being considered a drunk ticking time bomb daddy-wanting oversized baggage-toting McLoserface? Ooookay. I already addressed the between partners thing. I also understand that some people want to be single after they've gotten out of a serous LTR. But other than that, I can't think of a reason why somebody would want to be single.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Well by 30 I think most people would be married or moving in that direction (assuming they want to get married), unless they were married or moving in that direction and something happened (break up, divorce, death, etc.).
somedude81 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Well by 30 I think most people would be married or moving in that direction (assuming they want to get married), unless they were married or moving in that direction and something happened (break up, divorce, death, etc.). That's what I was thinking. And anybody who tells themselves that they don't need a partner and are fine by themselves, probably has some issue (trust, intimacy, abandonment etc) Of course everybody has issues. Crazy doesn't come in just one flavor. 1
LexiB Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I just turned 30 last year so this doesnt apply to me but with women this is a different story from my own experiences. noticing women in this age I met are alcoholics, have multiple kids and no daddy helping out, or just old trust issues. its okay if she's 20+ and single but going in her 30s is a huge red flag Im sorry. Happy trollin', dude.
serial muse Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I already addressed the between partners thing. I also understand that some people want to be single after they've gotten out of a serous LTR. But other than that, I can't think of a reason why somebody would want to be single. Given the original premise of this thread, that doesn't wash. The OP is just talking about the people he sees paraded past him on a site, their particular personal life circumstances notwithstanding. As you say, everyone has a little of the crazy. But that's about all they sometimes have in common. I think the problem here is that people try to forcefit equations to forge "rules of thumb" out of a lot of really scattered data. We all have our personal stories. Whether you (meaning the general you, not necessarily you, somedude) are the sort of person who feels that those individual stories matter, or who, for your own comfort, instead prefers to issue generalities about what's wrong with other people as a group is up to you.
soserious1 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 I already addressed the between partners thing. I also understand that some people want to be single after they've gotten out of a serous LTR. But other than that, I can't think of a reason why somebody would want to be single. I can think of dozens of reasons
somedude81 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Given the original premise of this thread, that doesn't wash. The OP is just talking about the people he sees paraded past him on a site, their particular personal life circumstances notwithstanding. The OP gave very few details and only has one post in this thread. As you say, everyone has a little of the crazy. But that's about all they sometimes have in common. I think the problem here is that people try to forcefit equations to forge "rules of thumb" out of a lot of really scattered data. We all have our personal stories. Whether you (meaning the general you, not necessarily you, somedude) are the sort of person who feels that those individual stories matter, or who, for your own comfort, instead prefers to issue generalities about what's wrong with other people as a group is up to you.Of course the stories matter. But having a good story doesn't rule out the fact that something could be wrong. Though it does help with perspective and can turn a red flag into something much less severe. I can think of dozens of reasons Can you share a few?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 No, but I would say this: If a man or a woman is past 30 and never had a serious relationship, something is wrong. 4
AD1980 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 No, but I would say this: If a man or a woman is past 30 and never had a serious relationship, something is wrong. Why? Maybe theyre just extremely shy or the opposite sex isnt attracted to them 1
Shaun-Dro Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 No, but I would say this: If a man or a woman is past 30 and never had a serious relationship, something is wrong. I don't think so. A man or woman can deny serious relationships, because stability might not interest them as it might others. To each their own.
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