sakura91 Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Original post here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/315855-recent-break-up-reconciliation-soon So I've been discussing with my ex of just over a week if we could sit down maturely and talk about how we could make another try work, as he still says he doesn't know what he wants. Stupidly, I've been phoning him and getting emotional and asking if he misses me every 5 minutes too. So, when we had the last phonecall last night and he said "I'll be in touch when I'm ready to talk", I left it at that and went NC under strict instructions from my housemates. They said I wasn't to speak to him for 24 hours at first, unless he contacted me about meeting. Now the other day (Saturday), when I decided to do NC for the weekend because I'd been acting too needy, at around 4pm he texted me and at first I ignored it but then we had a long text conversation and he asked me things like 'How was work?' and really stupid pointless stuff. I texted 'don't pretend like you care about my life if you don't' but he continued to text. Lo and behold, again I haven't texted him all day and like clockwork, come 4pm (around the time we'd both be done with uni and see each other normally), I get a pointless text! Basically I have some of his dad's dvds and he has some of mine. However, we promised each other that after we sort all of this out, we're going to remain friends so I don't even know why it would be an issue!! Him: My dad is concerned about DVD swapping Do you have his with you? x Me: Yes. Why is he concerned? :/ x Him: He was just like 'am I ever gonna get them back and will you be able to give hers back? x Me: Why wouldn't we??? x Him: Well exactly but he doesn't know that. If I've never said it before I don't really tell my parents an awful lot about what goes on x Me: What exactly IS going on?? x Him: mmmmm good question x Me: So you don't know? x Him: Meh. Talk later x Now clearly, all of this texting was unnecessary because he knows full well he can ask for those DVDs any time and I'll happily return them. It's not like we're on bad terms! Every time I try and go NC when all I wanna do is pour my heart out to him, I get these crappy texts!! Is this him missing me at the time he'd usually be seeing me and being too much of a coward/asshat to admit it??
nick d Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 To me, it seems like he is seeing if he still has you.. Texting little things like that to you he may just be testing you to make sure you still are talking to him. And also to see if you will spill your feelings out to him.. I bet if you just went a few days not texting him back, he'd go crazy!
Author sakura91 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 To me, it seems like he is seeing if he still has you.. Texting little things like that to you he may just be testing you to make sure you still are talking to him. And also to see if you will spill your feelings out to him.. I bet if you just went a few days not texting him back, he'd go crazy! Lol, you're probably right. I replied because at first I thought it was a decent thing to ask about, being his dad's property, but then I realised he knows full well he'll get them back! What I don't understand is that he asks me for time and space to decide if he wants a relationship or not, and then the next day he's right back there texting me when he knows it could lead to emotional talking/arguing/persuasion...When I call him he wants to get off the phone but when I don't his fingers go crazy!
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Go through everything with a fine tooth comb. Box anything up that is his and drop it somewhere where he will find it. Cut that reason for communicating as it was obviously just a selfish thing for him to do.
Author sakura91 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 I just don't know what's going on. He has an exam tomorrow so (after starting the whole texting thing) he told me to stop texting. We're planning to meet after his exam for a drink. I've suggested we stop talking like this and just spend time together because at the moment we're having all the bad parts of a relationship with none of the good parts! He said he'll think about it when he's done his exam.
Author sakura91 Posted March 5, 2012 Author Posted March 5, 2012 If anyone could help me that would be great because I'm really getting desperate...I miss him so much I can't stand it and he still doesn't know what he wants...I need to know what to say to him tomorrow...
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