strength-abounds Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Hello fellow LoveShackers, It has been a lengthy absence for me and I have missed this forum. While reading the latest threads on No Contact, I picked up on a trend that bothers me a little bit. Will No Contact make my SO miss me? The answer is a resounding WHO CARES. No Contact is not designed to lure your estranged lover back into your arms. It is designed to help you cope with losing a lover by allowing yourself to grieve over the loss. I went No Contact with my EW two years ago after a being married to her for a decade. Yep, it hurt at first. I would be lying if I said there wasn't any pain left. But the pain I feel now is just a dull ache. Had I tried to stay in contact with her, who knows what my pain level would be. Because of No Contact, I have allowed myself time to improve my overall well-being, both internally and externally without worrying about who I was doing it for, me? Or her? I have had time to reflect on what kind of husband I was and how to be a better man in general without constant belittling from my EW. Stay No Contact. Silence IS a source of great strength. 1
Philosoraptor Posted March 5, 2012 Posted March 5, 2012 Sounds like you found your path to healing, good for you. It's all about making yourself better for you, not to impress or make anyone else jealous.
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