BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 this place is very helpful; come here every time you feel the need to contact your ex. There are some very nice people on here.
Author tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Yes i agree , it does wonders in the healing process : ) I really like it soooooooo much better than Facebook ,, haha 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Yes i agree , it does wonders in the healing process : ) I really like it soooooooo much better than Facebook ,, haha Facebook should really be called Fakebook. Things are never as they look on there. 1
Author tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Haha I completely agree. Everything is sooooo fake on there and drama rated. Seriously, its like being addicted to watching grass growing... Retarted and waste of time. It is honestly sad that 99 % of the population is using it... So pretty much u can find out what is going on in anyones life just about . Or what they say is going on LOL. 1
nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Even though it looks like we are past the topic, I just thought i'd chime in.. After two weeks of being broken up with my ex I decided to write her a letter. I must have spent 6 hours writing that five page letter. I left it on her car at work.. And of course I never heard anything from her. I regreted so much that I wrote her that letter and gave it to her!
Author tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Nick Damn I am sorry to hear that. Sometimes it is soooo hard to realize someone is that cold. But I guess the sooner we accept it the easier life gets. I literally felt so torn getting over my ex. But sometimes people wanna watch us literally die in misery over them. I think that u should not beat urself up, at least u were the bigger person and told her how u felt. Even if she didnt care, be proud of urself. It sucks we have to play stupid games with our feelings to earn respect, forgiveness, etc. A huge part of the reason why I dont wanna date anyone. But just realize ur the bigger person in all of this
nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Nick Damn I am sorry to hear that. Sometimes it is soooo hard to realize someone is that cold. But I guess the sooner we accept it the easier life gets. I literally felt so torn getting over my ex. But sometimes people wanna watch us literally die in misery over them. I think that u should not beat urself up, at least u were the bigger person and told her how u felt. Even if she didnt care, be proud of urself. It sucks we have to play stupid games with our feelings to earn respect, forgiveness, etc. A huge part of the reason why I dont wanna date anyone. But just realize ur the bigger person in all of this Yeah, I feel good knowing that I did everything possible. I treated her like a queen. I have no regrets, just need to let go. You seem like you are starting to do alot better! Thats good! I'm starting to get better, just focusing on me and nothing else! And I hear ya, I'm not wanting to date either lol. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? And how long was your relationship? I am 25 and my relationship was just under 3 years.
Author tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 I am 37 and we have a 2 yr old son . Our relationship lasted 4 and half yrs. So it was rough... and he was abusive , he cheated onme 7 damn times , was mentally and physically abusive. So yea even tho I feel I should have my head examined for tolerating his abuse , I am really proud of myself I had the strength to move on : )
nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 I am 37 and we have a 2 yr old son . Our relationship lasted 4 and half yrs. So it was rough... and he was abusive , he cheated onme 7 damn times , was mentally and physically abusive. So yea even tho I feel I should have my head examined for tolerating his abuse , I am really proud of myself I had the strength to move on : ) Wow.. I'm so sorry! I don't see how any man could abuse any woman! You are very gorgeous and seem very smart, you will find a guy that treats you like a queen!
Author tornangel Posted March 9, 2012 Author Posted March 9, 2012 Well thank you Nick, But I am not gonna find any man to treat me that great until I treat myself that great for a long time first . Just saying. I want to have the greatest relationship with me first : ) He took alot from me. But I will get it back...
nick d Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Yeah that's a good idea! You are strong and will get through it just fine
leoc1973 Posted March 9, 2012 Posted March 9, 2012 Tornangel, I wrote one such letter to my ex and she showed all her friends and one of her close friends told me they all had a great laugh over it at one of their bachelorette parties with a lot of girls there. I guess a few of them said poor guy but for the most part they all got a good laugh. The girl that told me said she felt really bad for me said my ex was horrible about it. If you read this site you will see that there are a lot of really great guys on here that did the world for their women and were walked all over by them. Make sure that you heal and you will see again. Think of it this way. You have a beautiful child that would not be here hadn't it been for him. Think of it that you were meant to bring your child into the world and now its time for a new chapter. The chapter where you get your happy ending. 1
Sugarkane Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Tornangel, I wrote one such letter to my ex and she showed all her friends and one of her close friends told me they all had a great laugh over it at one of their bachelorette parties with a lot of girls there. I guess a few of them said poor guy but for the most part they all got a good laugh. The girl that told me said she felt really bad for me said my ex was horrible about it. Wow Leoc I can never understand how cruel people can be. Those people shouldn't laugh, it may just be them one day. Highly likely in fact.
broken-and-lost Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Hey I just wanted to re enforce what everyone else has said here never send the letter just keep them and write them when ever you feel like you need to tell him how you feel. I wrote my ex at least 4 of those types of letter and she just either ripped me apart for them or was just plan cold and cruel about the whole situation leaving me feel worse about myself as a person and making me feel like a horrible person which i am far from i'm similar in age to you and all i can say is you will regret it it's better to try best you can to focus on you and your lovely child. Save yourself further pain and just focus on yourself if you can i still write these letters 1 year on but i now have the sense to never send them, but they do help with the healing.
SoMuchLove Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Don't worry. . I know exactly how you feel. I also wrote a letter to my ex and wondered whether or not I should send it. I am sooooooo glad I didn't because it would have made me look lame. The best way to get back at him is to show him you don't care at all! Even though you think sending it will make you feel better, the truth is. . just writing it probably made you feel better. As long as you know the truth, then try to remember that and not worry if he knows it or not. The sucky thing is that you could send it and he could either not read it or worse, use your words against you and make him think badly of you. For example. .(btw, I don't think this about you). . he could think, "what a crazy, pathetic whiny b*tch. I'm so glad I'm rid of her." Of course this wouldn't be true, but he could potentially make him self think this as a coping mechanism so that he doesn't feel so bad. Trust me, the best thing is to act like you don't need him at all. Even though it will be hard to pretend, it will show him how strong you are and want you back. The last thing a guy wants is a girl who comes across as "needy." Sorry you are going through this. I do know just how you feel and it sucks. Best of luck to you and believe me, you will find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Don't settle for anything less. 1
guccimane99 Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 First thing is i was in ur shoes about a year and a couple months i dont know exact cuz honestly it doesnt matter anymore. I will tell u this i did send my letter to my ex after she texted me a month or two after. What i got from her wasnt what i thought i was going to get. Honestly, you learn i sent her the letter do i regret it no because nothing in it was bad, but i do regret sending it because she hurt me really bad. Best thing to do is block him on facebook. That way he wont see u and u wont see him. Its like if u cant see him he wont exist its hard at first but as time goes on and u meet new people you look track and thought of him. Just keep moving forward that is what life is about. If u see him smile and say "hi" because its polite and honestly ur ex wont think bad of you plus it will make it seem like they dont matter as opposed to seeing them and turning away.
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