How do i take his body language???

[curiousone77]

Long story but been driving me crazy! So a month ago i was out with a friend and we went to a small town bar. Right when i walked in i noticed an attractive guy, he looked right at me as well. He knew my friend that i walked in with so i assumed he looked at me just to "scan" who ever else was walking in. Hes the bouncer there so my friend went right up to him and started talking to him, as he was talking to her he kept looking at me. We walked away and sat at the bar, he was walking around but kept turning to look our way and kept coming over by us but never said anything. I noticed quite a bit he would look at me, after noticing i quickly looked away but kept looking back at him lol This went on all night but nothing was said.

 

The next week i went back to the same place and he was working again. right off the bat it was eye contact and my friend again was talking to him and he looked down at me. same eye contact yet again but no talking. even my friend made a comment about him looking my way.

 

the following week i couldnt make it there but went again lastnight. SAME THING!! I told my sis i thought he was so attractive and she said "well he keeps looking over here every 5 to 10 mins!!" doing his rounds he kept walking past where we were sitting when clearly he could of walked the other way to get to the same place. he also kept sitting at a table across from us while i was shooting pool. At one point he walked past and i saw him look out of the corner of his eyes and as i looked up at him he gave a closed mouth grin, not really a smile, i dont know what it was.

 

Towards the end of the night there were people standing next to me and i was sitting, everytime i looked his way he was peering through the people and it was direct eye to eye contact that was held longer instead of him "looking away" quickly. What does this all mean?!?!?! lol I thought i was just thinking he was looking frequently but everyone i was with noticed it as well. Now what??

 

Im assuming theres some sort of mutual attraction BUT he has a gf. From what im being told its not a real secure relationship. And she has been in there with him while hes giving me these looks. I never see them touching or acting like gf/bf a whole lot. Lastnight she was in there and everytime she would try to put her arm around him he would walk away and go stand elsewhere and then return looks to me. Plus, one of my friends came in later in the night and gave me a huge hug, hott bouncer sure was staring!!!

 

im wondering if this gf of his is serious, ive heard shes done him wrong and no one knows why he went back to her, but if hes showing interest in me ill def take him off her hands lol..how do i take all this? what does it all mean?

[darkmoon]

i think he knows he's attractive and is enjoying your reactions - i mean, he's got you all fascinated keeps catching your eye - just take him as you find him coz til his girlfriend has really gone off the scene you are asking for trouble - note that he has not dumped her - wait and see what he does over the next few weeks and just relax about this charmer of yours

[make me believe]

Who cares what it means? HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Therefore: he's off limits. No matter what rumors you've heard about his relationship. Anyway he sounds like a big p*ssy if he can't even come over and talk to you. But again.. HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Leave it alone.

[silvermercy]

You made a whole post describing his reactions and you left the most important bit last? That HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!? Don't you have any self-respect?? Seriously.

 

By the way, of course he hasn't approached yet. His GF is there and so are his friends/colleagues. Who cares if they are not in a secure relationship? That's irrelevant. That, and he also enjoys the attention and ego-boost. Nothing there, sorry. But by all means, approach if you want a potential cheater in your life. He has all the signs.

Edited March 7, 2012 by silvermercy